U1987 Posted January 19, 2011 Posted January 19, 2011 So odd question, but I've increasingly been becoming self conscious about my facebook. I have a relatively low friend count (only about 150) and a very small and slow stream of pictures. All of my "party-pics" are pretty old. Most girls I know have friend counts over 1000+, and have new party-pics coming up every week. I'm just wondering, would my facebook make me appear unattractive to girls like these? (PS, before you get high-n-mighty and ask "probably, but do you really want a girl like that?" or "maybe, but do you really want a party girl?" let me answer that question. Yes I do.)
WTRanger Posted January 19, 2011 Posted January 19, 2011 The girls you seek would add an convicted killer on Facebook. Of those 1,000 "friends" I bet the only talk to about 2 of them, and they probably don't really like them that much. If you are so concerned about this, and I think you are a moron for it, just go on Facebook and add the next 14,000 people you see. Search for stuff, add people from groups, etc and you can be just like those girls you are looking for. Those girls still won't give you the time of day though. Those girls are into D-bags. Since you are on LS, concerned about Facebook, I suspect you are the A-typical "Nice Guy".
Nukulus Posted January 19, 2011 Posted January 19, 2011 Here's the thing though. He isn't a nice guy. All of his posts are about the best way to get in a girls pants, or complaining that girls don't want to sleep with him despite how awesome he thinks he is. He sounds like the grade A douche that those party girls would want to be with. Thing is, in real life I doubt he is. He probably isn't boisterous, douchebaggy, or treats people like crap. I think he is socially inept at trying to get with the girl he wants to get with. As much as he probably hates to hear this: the OP and all the reasons he thinks he is so desirable, probably make him desirable to those girls that want an actual relationship. Probably not attracting the type of girls that can just be ****ed and forgotten. As for your question. I seriously doubt these girls care one way or another. AS the other poster said they may have 1000+ friends but only talk to few of them. You probably wouldn't stand out if you had 10,000 friends.
Kinder-Horror Posted January 19, 2011 Posted January 19, 2011 over 1000 friends? I have 332 friends (yes, I just went and looked) and there are less than 10 people on my list I have not met in person. I find it hard to believe the girls you know personally know all of their 1000+ friends that they have on their list. It just means they haven't been burned by it, or they dont care. in short, no - at least in MY, humble, girlie opinion, I do not find guys with a low friend count or lack of douche "party" pics unattractive.
Mad Max Posted January 19, 2011 Posted January 19, 2011 People with 1,000 people on their friend list are a joke. A couple of hundred I can see. I don't even know 1,000 people and even if I did, I wouldn't want to add all of them.
OceanGirl Posted January 19, 2011 Posted January 19, 2011 Eh I have 200 friends and I have met most in real life at some point. Some are from high school though so I am not really friends with them anymore. I wouldn't care how many friends a guy has on his FB and lack of weekly party pics would be a bonus. I like to see pics with pets ,family, doing traveling, doing adventurous stuff and occasional night out pics.
dispatch3d Posted January 19, 2011 Posted January 19, 2011 haha that's quite funny. I have 500ish. I wouldn't be concerned about how my facebook looks to other people. I'd be more concerned with having a fun time, making friends, etc. As in I don't think facebook is really that great a place to concentrate my energy.
Surrealist Posted January 19, 2011 Posted January 19, 2011 I have just over 200 'firends' and about 39 487 enemies. I'm always looking to add more enemies every single day.
Art_Critic Posted January 19, 2011 Posted January 19, 2011 (edited) I have 27 friends on my FB and 5 of those are from LS... I would think a high count of friends would be worse than a low count.. come on.. who really has 1k friends ?.. I can tell you that I have 27 people in my life that I want to be part of my life.. but 1k.. no freakin way... FB becomes more a quantity rather than quality deal and some people will friend just about anyone... Edited January 19, 2011 by Art_Critic
SmileFace Posted January 19, 2011 Posted January 19, 2011 I don't see the problem with how you describe your page but it may be unattractive to girls who have that sort of page. Yet I don't think people actually care what people have on their facebook pages. Be aware this is coming from someone who signs into facebook maybe twice a week .
Gypsy_Soul Posted January 19, 2011 Posted January 19, 2011 So odd question, but I've increasingly been becoming self conscious about my facebook. I have a relatively low friend count (only about 150) and a very small and slow stream of pictures. All of my "party-pics" are pretty old. Most girls I know have friend counts over 1000+, and have new party-pics coming up every week. I'm just wondering, would my facebook make me appear unattractive to girls like these? (PS, before you get high-n-mighty and ask "probably, but do you really want a girl like that?" or "maybe, but do you really want a party girl?" let me answer that question. Yes I do.) For me a guy with high friend count and tons of party pictures are a turn-off for me.
LeaningIntoTheMuse Posted January 19, 2011 Posted January 19, 2011 The fact that this question even needs to be asked, makes me hate Facebook even more.
Confusedalways Posted January 19, 2011 Posted January 19, 2011 So odd question, but I've increasingly been becoming self conscious about my facebook. I have a relatively low friend count (only about 150) and a very small and slow stream of pictures. All of my "party-pics" are pretty old. Most girls I know have friend counts over 1000+, and have new party-pics coming up every week. I'm just wondering, would my facebook make me appear unattractive to girls like these? (PS, before you get high-n-mighty and ask "probably, but do you really want a girl like that?" or "maybe, but do you really want a party girl?" let me answer that question. Yes I do.) Yes, definitely. For the girls you're seeking this would be a definite negative.
pookster72 Posted January 19, 2011 Posted January 19, 2011 well, how often do you see a guy taking 100s of pictures of himself and his friends at a party? usually girls are the ones with a thousand pictures and a thousand friends. i rarely see a dude with that many pictures, and if i did i'd probably think it was odd. it also depends on age. theres a certain "facebook generation" (usually college class of 08-11) that tends to use it a lot more, because it came out and gained popularity among college students right when they were starting college.
pookster72 Posted January 19, 2011 Posted January 19, 2011 Eh I have 200 friends and I have met most in real life at some point. Some are from high school though so I am not really friends with them anymore. I wouldn't care how many friends a guy has on his FB and lack of weekly party pics would be a bonus. I like to see pics with pets ,family, doing traveling, doing adventurous stuff and occasional night out pics. oh i love looking at other people's traveling/adventurous pictures haha. it makes me so jealous, though
WTRanger Posted January 19, 2011 Posted January 19, 2011 Here's the thing though. He isn't a nice guy. All of his posts are about the best way to get in a girls pants, or complaining that girls don't want to sleep with him despite how awesome he thinks he is. He sounds like the grade A douche that those party girls would want to be with. Actually, that's the classic definition of Nice Guy. Some bitter schmuck who fails at getting girls and who thinks that having Facebook friends and reading "The Game" or tolling AskMen.com is the way to go. Nice guys are always the biggest a-hole, bitter, resentful human beings who see women as nothing more than walking vaginas.
Mad Max Posted January 19, 2011 Posted January 19, 2011 Actually, that's the classic definition of Nice Guy. Some bitter schmuck who fails at getting girls and who thinks that having Facebook friends and reading "The Game" or tolling AskMen.com is the way to go. Nice guys are always the biggest a-hole, bitter, resentful human beings who see women as nothing more than walking vaginas. And like you said, they're not truly nice. I consider myself to be nice, but I don't boast about it. I'd like to think I have other good qualities.
Billy_Boy Posted January 19, 2011 Posted January 19, 2011 The trick on FB isnt just adding anyone, its quality... start adding club promoters and people who host events. youll start getting invited to stuff, start going, and start meeting people. Youll get a jumping FB profile, if thats what you want.
Star Gazer Posted January 19, 2011 Posted January 19, 2011 I like seeing a well-rounded assortment of activities and pictures on anyone's FB, but they should always be true to the person. If you're not a clubber or partier, it would make sense to not have those kinds of pictures. I think I see more friends and tons of pictures on females' pages then men. Men rely on everyone else to tag them. They're not the ones at a party/game/club/event/etc. busting out their camera and squeeling, "Picture! Picture!" It's the ladies who do that. I have 27 friends on my FB and 5 of those are from LS... Why aren't you my friend?
Woggle Posted January 19, 2011 Posted January 19, 2011 I take pride in the fact that I do not have a facebook page and have no desire to have one. I wear that fact as a badge of honor.
Pyro Posted January 19, 2011 Posted January 19, 2011 I take pride in the fact that I do not have a facebook page and have no desire to have one. I wear that fact as a badge of honor. aww no one is accepting your friend requests? I bet its a conspiracy perpetrated by the feminist movement.
Citizen Erased Posted January 19, 2011 Posted January 19, 2011 Why aren't you my friend? At least he didn't add your fiance and not you. I don't think it's terribly important how active your FB life is unless you're female. I now I'm certainly not going to find it attractive if people are adding anybody that so much as sneezed near them.
Eeyore79 Posted January 19, 2011 Posted January 19, 2011 For me a guy with high friend count and tons of party pictures are a turn-off for me. Seconded. I prefer a guy who isn't out partying and drinking all the time, who actually has a life and family and hobbies etc. However the type of girls the OP wants probably do find a guy who parties and drinks all the time to be attractive. So yes, your FB page will probably turn off a certain type of party girls, but other girls probably won't be bothered.
baguette Posted January 19, 2011 Posted January 19, 2011 You can make your friends (and friend count) invisible to everyone but you.
Woggle Posted January 19, 2011 Posted January 19, 2011 aww no one is accepting your friend requests? I bet its a conspiracy perpetrated by the feminist movement. I would care otherwise. I have friends in the real world. I see their faces and hear their voices. Why would I care about some dumb social network site.
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