Lucky555 Posted January 19, 2011 Posted January 19, 2011 My guy asks if I always wear makeup..why? He asked if there was ever a time I didn't wear it ..I wear minimum foundation eyeliner maybe mascara. It makes me feel good and peeped forth day My guy tells me in bed..we are different I don't do what you do and then I tell him what I like about him. He then hugs me. Insecure? This type of insecurity frightens me. Like he had done this before. I guess because he might have his defenses up or something. He asks me another pair of shoes? I have a lot of shoes..I usually get them on sale or they are given to me..why does he ask me?! Another question he asked me was you have had different outfits to wear at night have you bass those or did you just get them? I said I have not worn them for any other guy. Why does he want to know?? I did have them anticipating I find a great guy to wear them for especially if they were on sale at the time...usually outfits cost a lot. The guy I am with was always wishing I wore outfits in the beginning I chose not to because I figured it's not best if I'm not going to sleep with him even though I own some. It bothered me that he would send me photos of stuff he wanted to see on me..they were so expensive!!! Why didn't he buy them if he wanted them on me! It makes me mad because he know my life and he has money to burn and he knows I shouldn't be spending a lot right now. It just makes him look like a jerk. So these comments have stuck in my head. I never question why he does things or tell him to wear certain things. Also lately I his feel detached. I feel like I should be having more time with him. I'm feeling like I'm not being adored. Like I find myself never getting ready to go out and have dinner at a nice place or just for a. Simple drink to get out for a bit with him. I would enjoy going for a walk or anything besides sitting around watching tv! I can stay home! Lately I had initiated conversations with him and they all lead to sex conversations my him.last time he took me out it was not a place I particularly liked because there was only one thing I could actualy eat and it was a sandwich for dinner? Ugh! He told me he didn't know where else to go. He lied it was where he wanted to go! So lately I wonder why I'm questioned by him and why I'm not inspired to be in a realtoonship. I feel like I want to give it a chance but it just seems he's selfish and cheap. He can afford things he wants by the way. I just feel like I have done more already and I can't give anymore till I get something back. I sleep with him, though sometimes I am not in the mood. I cooked all our dinners or I have bought dinner with one exception, I have drove everytime and hour o see him, and i do contact him no games. I know I stand by the philosophy you treat others how you want to be treated. I'm feeling a lack of attraction lately because I feel cheated. I feel like he is happy to just have someone but he doesn't do anything sweet for me. Lately his sexual remarks turn me off. I want someone who wants to live and enjoy things ugh
Author Lucky555 Posted January 19, 2011 Author Posted January 19, 2011 Honestly, I feel as though you are overthinking every comment made. There doesn't seem to be anything out of the ordinary for what the guy is doing, but you seem to be overanalyzing every action. For example, if he asks you "another pair of shoes?", he must know that you already have many pairs of shoes, and is therefore wondering why you are buying more shoes. It's an honest question, and doesn't necessarily "mean" anything. Also, in the case of him hugging you after complimenting him, isn't that completely normal? He feels that you love him after you tell him what you like about him and therefore gives you a hug. Why would you feel that he is "insecure" in anyway? It's just weird because No other guy asks those things. Like make up or shoes.if I want to buy more shoes I can. He doesn't support me and he doesn't rule my life. I just think lately he is being inconsiderate. I think he's being selfish too. He has taken me out once only because he broke a commitment he made. I don't think his comments are normal either. I think he could be doing more but he doesn't like recently I had been initiating conversation but he doesn't. I'm not playing games with any dude. And the way he told me about him being different it sounded insecure like maybe he wanted to break up or is suggesting something.. I have no clue. But also him being cheap I'm not liking this. I am looking for a future with someone and that's not what I want is a guy who won't be happy to take me to a nice meal that gives me options to eat! Whenever I cook for him I ask him what he likes give him options and buy and prepare it! It takes my time, money, and effort. Yet he doesn't do anything sweet for me? He doesn't even want to go out. If I suggest something he doesn't want to. I like him and I am trying to give it a chance..but it's hard to be connected to a guy I see maybe once a week or every two weeks. I'm trying to figure out what it is that will hold us together
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