ang1903 Posted January 18, 2011 Posted January 18, 2011 My sister and her boyfriend have been dating for 6yrs now. They have there ups and downs because he has cheated before. Now he works in another state and has been sleeping with other women. How I know this he brags to my boyfriend and show him pictures of these women. I boyfriend told me today that my sister boyfriend is cheating again. I know my sister wont believe because the last time I told her she ask him he made up a story and she believes him. The other time the girl called his phone my sister answer the girl told my sister that she was sleeping with him. His friends even told her that he cheated not only once but several time. My question is do I tell her and just leave it alone.
tinktronik Posted January 18, 2011 Posted January 18, 2011 You've already told her and she chose to ignore it. I would just leave it alone.
sally4sara Posted January 18, 2011 Posted January 18, 2011 She knows by now the kind of person she is with. Clearly she has either accepted it or believes she can't do better than this guy. Any reasons as to why she would believe she can't do better than him? what else does she have going on for her?
Author ang1903 Posted January 18, 2011 Author Posted January 18, 2011 She works full time and has her place with him (he doesn't pay a dime). She thinks no other guy would want her because she didnt go to college and she not pretty to be with a better guy. She has no confidence. He has her wrapped around his finger.
sally4sara Posted January 19, 2011 Posted January 19, 2011 Try to get her out more making friends. If she has a creative interest or classes she'd like to take -encourage her to develop and learn. Encourage her to get a degree. Invite her around good couples you know so she can see better relationship examples. She might be helped this way and come to see him differently on her own.
Goldenspoon Posted January 19, 2011 Posted January 19, 2011 My sister and her boyfriend have been dating for 6yrs now. They have there ups and downs because he has cheated before. Now he works in another state and has been sleeping with other women. How I know this he brags to my boyfriend and show him pictures of these women. I boyfriend told me today that my sister boyfriend is cheating again. I know my sister wont believe because the last time I told her she ask him he made up a story and she believes him. The other time the girl called his phone my sister answer the girl told my sister that she was sleeping with him. His friends even told her that he cheated not only once but several time. My question is do I tell her and just leave it alone. Your sister is an idiot.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted March 2, 2011 Posted March 2, 2011 How tell your sister her boyfriend is cheating Maybe you should try to get your sister to team up with you to create an online image of some random female who would then strike up some sort of an online interaction with her boyfriend. Then your sister would likely see in front of her eyes just what the guy is about. Just make up a person... find some random photos of some faraway girl/woman to use for the purpose... and then tell your sister that you want her to be in on an experiment with you... ("... since you have such trouble convincing her otherwise" )
whichwayisup Posted March 2, 2011 Posted March 2, 2011 She works full time and has her place with him (he doesn't pay a dime). She thinks no other guy would want her because she didnt go to college and she not pretty to be with a better guy. She has no confidence. He has her wrapped around his finger. Your sister has no self esteem and doesn't want to be alone, so she'll put up with whatever with her boyfriend. I'm sure she knows deep down, what the truth is but is too afraid to lose him. He doesn't pay a dime and he's using her. It's sad that she can't see this. All you can do is try to support her in getting therapy so she can become more confident and strong, and then see this guy for who he is and leave him. If you tell her, chances are she won't believe you, like before.
Phateless Posted March 2, 2011 Posted March 2, 2011 Your sister is an idiot. I kind of agree... I also agree about taking her out more. Try taking her salsa or swing dancing - tons of super sweet people there and it will boost her confidence.
Tayla Posted March 3, 2011 Posted March 3, 2011 Welcome newcomer to LS! Feel free to read some of the former topics and maybe gain insight from that. Sorry if folks cast judgment with name calling, I assure you most adults here access the situation and not label the person for their decisions....
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