Roobin Posted January 18, 2011 Posted January 18, 2011 Why I am being approached by married women all the time? This really annoys me as I am single and want to find a gf too!!
Jazzari Posted January 18, 2011 Posted January 18, 2011 Why I am being approached by married women all the time? This really annoys me as I am single and want to find a gf too!! Are they fat? Sorry...couldn't resist. Where are you meeting them? Does location have anything to do with it? For instance if you worked in a day care facility...
Author Roobin Posted January 18, 2011 Author Posted January 18, 2011 No. Fat ladies normally are single! But married women come in all shapes and tastes, some of them absolutely gorgeous!! What do you think? This cant be normal and is driving me crazy, cause on one hand I want to do something about but on the other I feel like, why should I bother.
denise_xo Posted January 19, 2011 Posted January 19, 2011 It's part of life that these things happen. I've been approached by many married men. No need to allow it to drive you crazy. Just turn them down and move on.
TaraMaiden Posted January 19, 2011 Posted January 19, 2011 It's part of life that these things happen. I've been approached by many married men. No need to allow it to drive you crazy. Just turn them down and move on. Yeah but married men want an affair. Married women - want an affair. There's a difference...... (Motivation wise.....)
denise_xo Posted January 19, 2011 Posted January 19, 2011 Yeah but married men want an affair. Married women - want an affair. There's a difference...... (Motivation wise.....) :confused:
Woggle Posted January 19, 2011 Posted January 19, 2011 Any player will tell you married women are the easiest to get.
carhill Posted January 19, 2011 Posted January 19, 2011 Why I am being approached by married women all the time? Because it's likely that you are attractive and a positive reaction from you feeds their ego. In my case, over the decades, they found me as a welcome receptacle for the 'stuff' their husbands didn't or wouldn't deal with. It was an 'attraction' of a different sort. As mentioned, avoid them or, alternatively, as I've done, be aggressive with them sexually and they'll leave you alone. It pops their fantasy bubble. Good luck.
TaraMaiden Posted January 19, 2011 Posted January 19, 2011 :confused: I think married men, hit on single women, for different reasons married women, hit on single men. The affair, the end result is a diversion and escape from what the issues really are. An affair is an escapist solution. But I think the fundamental reasoning and motivation behind the affair, is ultimately different.
Author Roobin Posted January 19, 2011 Author Posted January 19, 2011 What do you see as a main difference in motivation between men and women when they cheat? I have been in many places out at night and in other contexts as well, and it seems that I only attract strippers, married women, problematic people, its exhausting to be honest. The thing is, very often we are talking about very attractive people as well, and as a single sometimes its hard to resist. Make your comments please.
EasyHeart Posted January 19, 2011 Posted January 19, 2011 What do you see as a main difference in motivation between men and women when they cheat?In general, married men are looking for sexual affairs, married women are looking for emotional affairs. It's very common. It sometimes seems like married women won't leave me alone. They think it's okay to flirt with single men because they aren't enticing you to cheat, so they don't feel guilty about it. And since they're married, they think they can flirt and tease you, but if you ever try to take it any further, they'll usually pretend to be shocked and say, "But I'm married!!! How could you???" It's usually a game for them. OTH, some of them are fine with taking it further than flirting. If it bothers you, just ignore them; if they're hot and you aren't involved with anyone else, have a little fun.
carhill Posted January 19, 2011 Posted January 19, 2011 I have been in many places out at night and in other contexts as well, and it seems that I only attract strippers, married women, problematic people, its exhausting to be honest.Your aura is 'available'. Motivations are as varied and as unique as individuals and their life circumstances. Personally, from MW's, if I take half of what they say as true, it's as varied as money, sex, compassion, impotency, alcoholism, drug abuse, g.i.g.s. and on and on. My advice is, as applicable, becoming more proactive. Go after what you want, aggressively. If a married woman happens to get caught in that net, toss her back quickly, as she is foul catch. Be clear and decisive, both about your feelings and your boundaries.
Stung Posted January 19, 2011 Posted January 19, 2011 Sometimes that happens. There are a lot of people searching for something illicit in the world, after all. But... Are you entirely sure that all of these women are approaching you for sexual/romantic purposes? I am married, and have no interest in pursuing men for anything illicit. Because I am so close with my husband, I really don't see men as potentials for sex or dates anymore, I just don't look at them that way, and I don't have my guard up around guys in the same way that I did when I was single and sexually approachable. We moved a few months ago and I don't know very many people in my area yet. I have friendships with both women and men and when I meet a new person who seems interesting and I feel we have things in common, I will talk with him/her, buy him/her a coffee, exchange email addresses. We then end up hanging out WITH my husband, usually, or scheduling playdates with our kids. But it has happened that men have mistaken my purely platonic friendliness for something more, as some of them are unaccustomed to seeing women as anything other than romantic interests.
carhill Posted January 19, 2011 Posted January 19, 2011 Are you entirely sure that all of these women are approaching you for sexual/romantic purposes? Stung asks a great question. OP, how do you perceive such interest? What signs and behaviors do you look for? In my own case, fondling, sharing of marital business, repeated ILY's, kissing, etc (I don't have sex with someone without mutual commitment) have all been 'perceptions'. Some women will take it pretty far in pursuit of whatever agenda they have, which have been as varied and sundry as making a SO/spouse jealous to emotional or sexual validation to proving that they still 'have it'. Women who smile at me and make pleasant conversation and show interest in me are being friendly. I like that, whether they are married or single. It's being 'friendly' not being solicitous, and I draw no inferences. Perhaps the OP can expand upon his perceptions in that regard. OP?
Untouchable_Fire Posted January 19, 2011 Posted January 19, 2011 In general, married men are looking for sexual affairs, married women are looking for emotional affairs. It's very common. It sometimes seems like married women won't leave me alone. They think it's okay to flirt with single men because they aren't enticing you to cheat, so they don't feel guilty about it. And since they're married, they think they can flirt and tease you, but if you ever try to take it any further, they'll usually pretend to be shocked and say, "But I'm married!!! How could you???" It's usually a game for them. OTH, some of them are fine with taking it further than flirting. If it bothers you, just ignore them; if they're hot and you aren't involved with anyone else, have a little fun. That is one thing I've found somewhat shocking in being exposed to a new culture. My GF is not from the U.S. and spending time with her family and friends who are also not born and raised here, the married women have very different attitudes and actions regarding what is appropriate. In my experience married women like Stung (see above) are not as common as the kind that will be actively receptive to flirting.
Author Roobin Posted January 19, 2011 Author Posted January 19, 2011 Ok! So here it goes! First thing, I have been dating girls and women for a long time now, I am pretty sure about what is what, I mean if you sit down with someone for a coffee you sure know the way the person looks at you in the eyes, women have got their own ways of showing when they are up for something whether is just flirting or something more. I ll give you clue, this class mate of mine, she absolutely gorgeous sexy and all, all she does is turning back at me every now and then to see if I am looking at her, she does that until she gets a bit of attention, then she invited me to go to the bar, I went with her, she sat next to me, when she could have in front of me, her hips next to mine, touching me all the time, looking in the eyes, what else you want, I had to leave b4 things warmed any further!! The there is another one I met at a new year s party. She was working next to her husband running the bar, never looked at me or anything, I didnt look at her although she is one of the sexiest girl I have seen in years! Last week she found my facebook God knows how, and started saying things like: before I even introduce myself let me tell you, you were the hottest guy at that party, you are this and that, bla bla and started with all those questions, I thought they were all pretty obvious. Besides I have made a huge mistake in the past by having a little adventure with someone that was committed!!
carhill Posted January 19, 2011 Posted January 19, 2011 Yep, sounds familiar and move the venue into friend's homes and embolden the wives a bit and we can talk
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