OOReeee Posted January 18, 2011 Posted January 18, 2011 2 weeks since we broke up (her needing alone time). As I was debating here, I thought about still being friends, to help her with the issues she's going through. But it's too hard. And I want to talk to her 20 times a day. And she still texts me or messages me. Last time we talked (3 days ago) I kept saying how I am doing well and seeing friends (which I am, except the doing well part), and she kept saying she's lonely, jokingly complaining that I don't need her anymore and why isn't she invited to fun things I do (because we are no longer together, duh). Even if talking to her was fun, it was fun for the wrong reasons. I don't want to get back together with her (I want to get back together to the her circa 2 months ago, but that just doesn't exist anymore), and I really need to heal. So I will not initiate conversation with her, and pretty much do the NC thing until it's over. There really is no way around it. Maybe I'll find a new girl along the way.
Stilicho Posted January 18, 2011 Posted January 18, 2011 why do u say u wanted to get back together with her 2 months ago? i feel like there is alot of info let out that we would need to know to properly help you with advice....
Author OOReeee Posted January 18, 2011 Author Posted January 18, 2011 No what I meant that 2 months ago she was great and then she changed, and what I want to get back together with doesn't exist anymore, and I need to get over it. Get over the urge of texting her 20 times a day, of calling, chatting, e-mailing, etc. Because that's the only way I can move on.
depplover_1980 Posted January 18, 2011 Posted January 18, 2011 Is there any chance she will change back to how she was and alter any unreasonable behaviour? I agree with the no contact though, it is cruel when you keep it up.
TheThinker Posted January 19, 2011 Posted January 19, 2011 Have you told her that she has changed a lot in the last 2 months ... ?? If she isnt made aware of it then she is probably in a comfort zone to a point where she thinks everything is/was still the same. Do you feel that you could commit to the relationship/her if she could be like she was before or would you be setting yourself up for the big fall
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