cj2 Posted January 18, 2011 Posted January 18, 2011 Bumped into the ex today at lunchtime, first time I have spoken to her in two months since she moved out. Last time I saw her, I had that horrible knot in my stomach and just wanted to run away. This time we spoke for a few minutes, had a brief catch up and went our on ours ways. For the first time today, I looked at her and didn't see that girl who took my breath away, I didn't feel that extreme longing, I didn't feel jealousy that someone else has her now. Instead I saw just another person. Her teeth looked really yellow from her chain smoking, her hair really needed a wash, she'd been picking her lips as usual and her skin didn't look good (must be missing my cooking and healthy eating!). That person that I'd been idolizing doesn't actually exist. I think I am slowly reaching the stage of acceptance and it feels good. Hearing her talk about work problems and getting drunk made me remember that there are a whole load of daily dramas and issues that are no longer my burden. She said she is moving away in a few months and I wished her luck and suggested we go for a quick coffee before she goes. It felt good to leave things on a positive note, walking away with my head held high and my whole life ahead of me.
Fern Posted January 18, 2011 Posted January 18, 2011 Hurrah! I think I'm getting there too, it's a good feeling isn't it?
Author cj2 Posted January 18, 2011 Author Posted January 18, 2011 Hurrah! I think I'm getting there too, it's a good feeling isn't it? Yep and it's only going to get better.. Honestly when I look back to how I was two months ago, the difference is just enourmous!
strangeways Posted January 18, 2011 Posted January 18, 2011 Good for you cj (you too Fern). I'm getting there but not sure if I'm quite ready to bump into my space cadet yet. Not much chance of it thank God. Hopefully not too long now. 3 1/2 months NC has made a huge difference to me and you're right, things can only get better.
marqueemoon4 Posted January 18, 2011 Posted January 18, 2011 Glad she is off the pedestal, hopefully for good.
smudge21 Posted January 19, 2011 Posted January 19, 2011 So know that feeling mate. Well done for getting there. I met up with an ex a few years back (this was after about a year of NC) and we chatted and stuff, but there was nothing there for me. I even looked at her and thought 'how on earth did I ever feel this way about you'. When we parted company after the drink, she asked if I wanted her number. I said no thanks, smiled, and left. That was it. Felt good. Felt great. Now if only I could get there with the latest ex...
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