hitbyatruck Posted January 18, 2011 Posted January 18, 2011 I want to frame a photo of my 2yo son so he can give it to his mother (my ex partner) for her upcoming birthday. My problem is I am still not fully over our breakup despite what it entailed. I want her to experience receiving a gift from our son but am concerned that she will also see it as a signal that I have not got over her. Not sure what to do.
PegNosePete Posted January 18, 2011 Posted January 18, 2011 It's not your responsibility to give her gifts any more. She can't expect her 2yo to give her a gift. If he wanted to give her a gift and asked you to help then that might be a different story, but there's no reason for you to do this.
marqueemoon4 Posted January 18, 2011 Posted January 18, 2011 It's not your responsibility to give her gifts any more. She can't expect her 2yo to give her a gift. If he wanted to give her a gift and asked you to help then that might be a different story, but there's no reason for you to do this. ^^^^this^^^^
lovesparis Posted January 18, 2011 Posted January 18, 2011 if you want to do it because you want to be giving her a gift do NOT do it. if you want to do it because you want to help your child grow and develop a healthy, giving relationship with his mom, then DO IT. if you give her a photo of you AND your son you're saying "i'm not over you" if you give her a photo of her son, you're helping him give her a present. don't forget to let him color the card!!
smilesalot1 Posted January 18, 2011 Posted January 18, 2011 I want to frame a photo of my 2yo son so he can give it to his mother (my ex partner) for her upcoming birthday. My problem is I am still not fully over our breakup despite what it entailed. I want her to experience receiving a gift from our son but am concerned that she will also see it as a signal that I have not got over her. Not sure what to do. Get an envelope, let your son color on a page and stick the picture in there. This looks like you made effort to assist your son, but didn't put the personal "IM HURT" touch on it.
Author hitbyatruck Posted January 18, 2011 Author Posted January 18, 2011 Ok. Just a pic of the boy in an envelope personally scribbled on by him seems to be the answer. It will be good for him to do the giving and will be not too personal from me. There is no way I would give her a pic of him & me - my ego is not that messed up!
PegNosePete Posted January 19, 2011 Posted January 19, 2011 It will be good for him to do the giving Personally I can't see how it will be good for him at all. Are you thinking you can start him off on a good habit of being generous at the age of 2? Sorry if I'm a pessimist but I don't think it works like that. At the age of 2 he won't have any understanding of what is going on. The present is from you, no matter how you try to justify it.
Author hitbyatruck Posted January 19, 2011 Author Posted January 19, 2011 Arrrrrgh, Peg Nose Pete; A pirate may you be - but something tells me you be a parent not. Pessimism calls no port home around these heaving tides m'lad.
PegNosePete Posted January 19, 2011 Posted January 19, 2011 Arrrrrr, a parent I am not, but a soon-to-be-divorcee I am. Maybe my pessimism comes from my father not giving presents to my mother "from me" when I was 2... ...but I very much doubt it!
lovesparis Posted January 19, 2011 Posted January 19, 2011 peg nose pete, children know they receive presents on their birthday... they are also old enough to start being taught about giving presents.
sedgwick Posted January 19, 2011 Posted January 19, 2011 I'm with Pete. If she wants to see her son on her birthday, let her come and get him. Let her initiate it. Anything else would be from you and about you.
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