irc333 Posted January 18, 2011 Posted January 18, 2011 In lieu of the "If ya got it, flaunt it" post on here. Lately, I had been seeing a few women with low cut blouses are tank top photos in dating profile pics (of course along with more of their tasteful ones) With pictures like these, and I saw one that was a VERY well written articlulate woman who was looking for a serious relationship, doesn't even beleive in serial dating (focuses on one man at a time) Is it advisable to show off the juggs in such a manner? it was kind of funny, this one woman I had seen around in my area on a dating site, had some fuzzy webcam photos of her for a while, then one day, she puts up a brand new Ed Hardy Tank top, low-cut showin' off a nice set of at least DD's. If you were a guy, and this woman was looking for a serious relationship, would you contact her? Or think she's doing it for only the attention? Is it a red-flag? I would imagine she'd be getting emails from men wanting a fling with her, since "Hey' she's showin' off, she might be easy?"
tigressA Posted January 18, 2011 Posted January 18, 2011 Having pictures like that on your profile while saying you want a serious relationship is a red flag, IMO. Women who do that tend to be attention whores who complain that all men want from them is sex, yet they use sex as a tool to attract men. I saw a profile not too long ago on OKC from a girl who said something like "Don't message me if you're looking only for sex, blah blah." Yet under "first things people notice about me" she put "boobs" and nearly all her pictures were super-flirty/teasing/revealing/sexual in nature. :rolleyes:
carhill Posted January 18, 2011 Posted January 18, 2011 TBH, I move on. Seen enough breasts in my life. I literally say out loud, 'Jeez!', in an exasperated tone and move on to the next profile. One datapoint. IRL, of the women I've been with, it's always been a pleasant surprise when an otherwise conservative woman unleashes the 'girls' in a spectacular manner. I love it when everything isn't always as it seems. Mystery can be a good thing
Author irc333 Posted January 18, 2011 Author Posted January 18, 2011 I have typically heard, at least in public, that women that are single (esp if they are sizable) will tend to wear low-cut blouses to display that they ARE single. I heard from a friend that if men had the same kind of assetts, they'd be doing the same thing, too. It's just the kind of thing that's not as attention mongering as one might thing, but is just the way of things for single women. But that's out in public, and not on an online dating site. Which is worse, JUST the cleavage by itself (with no face) or a full chest INCLUDING the face? Some people have told me, "Well, it depends on how they're displaying it" Like with bikini photos, if they're doing it in their living room, well, that's a red flag. If it'sa regular picture of them at the beach or pool, different story, right? It's one of those, "It's not what you say it's HOW you say it" or "It's not what you show, it's how you DISPLAY it:" I agree with the previous poster. Having a picture that's too revealing is definitely a red flag for any guy wanting a serious relationship with a woman. Only men who are looking for sex would bother with those types of women. (You can also see this example often in bars. The women that wear revealing outfits get all the attention from guys that are out looking for sex)
Cee Posted January 18, 2011 Posted January 18, 2011 Yeah, irc33, I agree with you. Go with the context, taste, and pose of the photo. I don't think it's worth thinking that you can know a person by their photo. I posted up a photo of me on OKC in thigh high boots, a mini, and a skimpy top. It was a costume I had for an AIDS benefit. I wasn't trying to be slutty, but it was the only flattering full body shot I had. I made it my 4th picture so that it was not immediately seen. On the other hand, I almost always pass on shirtless guys. I find it a huge turnoff. But that's about me, not them.
jane100 Posted January 18, 2011 Posted January 18, 2011 As a woman, I find shirtless pictures of men a HUGE turn off too, and pass quickly, unless maybe on a beach and not too close. Its also like "where is the mystery?" for us too.
Author irc333 Posted January 18, 2011 Author Posted January 18, 2011 Well, the purpose of cleavage is to leave it to the imagination. Because you don't see it ALL. lol As a woman, I find shirtless pictures of men a HUGE turn off too, and pass quickly, unless maybe on a beach and not too close. Its also like "where is the mystery?" for us too.
wierdmunky Posted January 18, 2011 Posted January 18, 2011 Is the only way to attract guys through breasts though? Women know men are visual, and that people are visual in general. There are those quotes that say "Women dress up to compete with other women" or vice versa with men. Some days you just want to feel good about yourself by dressing attractive (with breasts though??) And how are people supposed to "attract" with their brain, if that's what you're looking for, by the WAY you attract. Not by boobies all the time because even in advertising, the cheep and easiest way to do that is through sex. Sex sells. On a dating sight, "brains" are easier to see. You just list it. It gets your attention, and to top it off, they are also a pretty face. Is the competition really that high?? Of course people are going to look at something pretty. I could go on and on about the Golden ratio and our natural eye, it almost screams to me desperation. She wants you to think she has beauty and brains, but well from what I hear described it's just boobs. Maybe she just likes to admire her assets when she logs on.
SarcasticBlonde Posted January 18, 2011 Posted January 18, 2011 In lieu of the "If ya got it, flaunt it" post on here. Lately, I had been seeing a few women with low cut blouses are tank top photos in dating profile pics (of course along with more of their tasteful ones) With pictures like these, and I saw one that was a VERY well written articlulate woman who was looking for a serious relationship, doesn't even beleive in serial dating (focuses on one man at a time) Is it advisable to show off the juggs in such a manner? it was kind of funny, this one woman I had seen around in my area on a dating site, had some fuzzy webcam photos of her for a while, then one day, she puts up a brand new Ed Hardy Tank top, low-cut showin' off a nice set of at least DD's. If you were a guy, and this woman was looking for a serious relationship, would you contact her? Or think she's doing it for only the attention? Is it a red-flag? I would imagine she'd be getting emails from men wanting a fling with her, since "Hey' she's showin' off, she might be easy?" I think those kind of pics look trashy and def send a message.
OceanGirl Posted January 18, 2011 Posted January 18, 2011 I have one mild cleavage pic in my profile. The rest are normal. I can't say it hurt me at all
Author irc333 Posted January 19, 2011 Author Posted January 19, 2011 I have one mild cleavage pic in my profile. The rest are normal. I can't say it hurt me at all Probably didn't help, either.
Gypsy_Soul Posted January 19, 2011 Posted January 19, 2011 I don't see anything wrong with showing off your assets, if they are attractive that is. I love seeing shirtless men with ripped abs. I'm also a nudist and an exhibitionist sometimes. Nudist's need love too, and we can decide to look for a serious relationship. I'd be bored with a prude long term though. I have a very high sex drive too so my mate would have to be able to keep up.
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