mortensorchid Posted January 20, 2011 Posted January 20, 2011 When it moves from the computer to real life (seeing each other in the flesh in no matter what situation it is), it's not unreasonable to hold off for a bit. After all, you were only exchanging emails / IMs. You were not unreasonable for wanting to hold off for a bit. He obviously wasn't interested in much besides getting sex, doesn't matter how old or young he was/is. I would say it's reasonable to have at least 4 get togethers before you even THINK about doing anything sexwise. I hope you are able to move on from him.
Kamille Posted January 20, 2011 Posted January 20, 2011 I would send him cookies for that. :lmao: Best idea ever. I vote Jane100 should do this! Do it! Please do it and report! NYC girl, you're right, i should bake some cookies, but i will probably eat them myself they will be so delicious. No, send the cookies with a "thank you for showing me who you really are" card. The guy is pursuing me again now can you believe it? Now he's had his temper tantrum about me being a "cock-teaser". True. You couldn't make it up... Send cookies and run away!
catgotyourtongue Posted January 20, 2011 Posted January 20, 2011 Very brief. 6 week online relationship, quite intense, two dates. second date i go back to his place, a bit of kissing and "making out" but nothing major. Next day he accuses me by text of being a "tease" and basically ends it saying he hopes i find someone else to "play games with". I had explained i just couldn't have sex with someone i didn't know better but he just ignored that. My question is: we have all heard about guys disappearing after sex-too-soon, but what about when they disappear when you don't have sex early LOL! (i think there were other issues though he was very attracted to me). Any experience of this kind of disappearing i.e. BEFORE sex, any explanations? I am very curious and obviously very naieve about all this. thanks. THIS exact thing has happened to me, twice in 6 months and I am in my 40's. I agree with so many other posters here. It's unreal how messed up dating can be, at any age. Maybe dating in our 80's is the key. I also felt messed up and sad and mad or hurt or confused or whatever, similar things as you have felt. These guys say they want a relationship and don't want a whore, or a slut (for lack of better words-I am tied so please excude the generalization) and yet G_d forbid you don't sleep with them or have intimate excursions on date one or two, you become the tease and bad guy, game player. I DONT GET IT, and DONT GET ME STARTED, lol. All I can say is sorry, and I hope in time, the dating experiences improve and that this was not a snapshot of what's to come. There are good men out there, just have to weave through some duds to find the golden nuggets. Hope you are feeling better, you did nothing wrong, he is an assclown.
catgotyourtongue Posted January 20, 2011 Posted January 20, 2011 lol sorry for my bad typing in earlier post. It said: (for lack of better words-I am tied so please excude the generalization) I meant to say, sorry I am "TIRED" so please excuse..... I really should spell check before I hit send
SunsetRed Posted January 20, 2011 Posted January 20, 2011 This behavior is typical for a guy you've met online. You handled yourself very well and continued being the classy lady you are. The guy is a douche bag. Unfortunately with men you've met online you have to be even more cautious. I'm very skeptical of going to an online guy's place. Everytime I have, the guy just wanted sex and acted rude like your guy did. I'm very fortunate to have had nothing but rudeness happen and at this point if online dating were the only way for me to meet men, I'd have to be a nun.
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