maca1234 Posted January 18, 2011 Posted January 18, 2011 Ive been with my ex for just over a year and a week ago my ex girlfriend dumped me over text. it was the night before her birthday and she knew she was going to be occupied for the next week or so. a few months before the break up we was going through a rough stage up until the break up and the arguments were all the time but both agreed we would never break up because when we got on it was perfect. she wanted a break a few days before she split up with me so that she would miss me after 4 or 5 days. we both threatened the relationship a bout a week before the break up but that was simply out of stubbornness. she finally sent me a text and said she doesnt want to do it anymore. When i tried to convince her we should stay together she got angry and told me she never wants me back and was harsh about it. ive not heard from her in a week! ive tried emailing her and contacting but have had no response. her mum and dad said she just needs space. I dont know what she really wants. am i too late after 6 days to start giving her space no she knows how i feel? she is stubborn and has said things to me she doesnt mean. i just want to see her and talk but she will not contact me. because i know her well i know that she can say things she doesnt mean but shes never gone this far with it. what shall i do to get her back and how long shall i give her?
confused31 Posted January 18, 2011 Posted January 18, 2011 There is only one thing you can do to get her back, and it does not guarantee it. You have to stay away. It's seemingly impossible, but it is literally the only way. (to clarify, there are probably other ways, but they arent as clear cut) If you stay away, and she never comes back, then thats the way it is. For some reason, it seems like some dumpers need to be scared that you're gone to even fathom of being with you again. Going off of my latest situation, my girlfriend told me she didnt know if we should be together 6 months ago. We still hung out/talked, but things were different and awkward. This led to her telling me she wanted to date other people. Thats when I started to say, ok then I need to break ties with you completely, its too hard. This scared her and she attempted to keep me around by saying she'd try. This ended up being BS. She did not want to try, but did not want to lose me at the same time. Because I wanted to be with her so bad, I allowed this to go on. She never feared once, no matter what I said, that I would leave and get over her. We literally got back together and broke up 6-7 times in a 3 month period. Finally I told her, I'm leaving for good and thats it. I had finally come to the point where I just didn't care if we were together or not, I was sick of being in limbo. My point is, if your ex truly doesnt want to be with you, this is the fastest way to find that out. If she's unsure, you need to make her committ totally to you. Prove it to you, as I told my ex. Think of it this way, when you get broken up with by someone you love, you feel like you'd do anything to get them back. You didnt know what you had till it was gone. The only way your ex will know/care about what she had with you is when its gone. Once its gone, there are no more games, no more maybes, thats it. At that point she'll make the decision. Keep the ball in her court at all times.
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