Mjfru Posted March 21, 2004 Posted March 21, 2004 Ok this could sound a little dumb, but here it goes . . . My gf of 2.5yrs and I had been fighting alot recently, so we decided to take a little break away from each other. I told her that she could go as far as making out with someone during this break. When my sister had told me that she saw her making out with some guy at a party and I flipped because I didn't really think that she would although I told her that it would be ok. So I called off the break and that was like a week ago. She told me that it was just a mood, and that it didn't mean anything really, and also that I shouldn't be mad because she didn't break any rules. Our relationship seems like it should be ok now, but I'm just confused and hurt from what happened and looking for a little help. Thanks.
lilvoyce7321 Posted March 21, 2004 Posted March 21, 2004 Sounds a bit strange to me. It probably would not sit to well with me. The bigger question is...Why did you tell her she could make out with someone during this cooling off period???? Did you have intentions on making out with someone as well? What were you hoping to gain from telling her this? I think that this needs to be addressed too. -lilvoyce
Dixiecron Posted March 21, 2004 Posted March 21, 2004 Dude, She called your bluff big time. When you said she could make out with other guys, you basically told her you thought of her as nothing but a piece of meat. If you play games you gotta be willing to get burned. If you still want her, just accept what happened and get along with the relationship. A big effing apology for calling a break in the first place wouldn't hurt either. Her response to your flipping out sounds like she's still pissed at you. Next time you get in a fight, don't end the relationship (which is what you did when you called the break and told her to go hook up with other guys), figure out why you are fighting and deal with the problems.
Arabess Posted March 21, 2004 Posted March 21, 2004 If I were in a serious relationship with a guy who told me it was 'okay' for me to make out with someone else....I wouldn't do it because I would be heart broken at the time.....but I would NEVER speak to him again. The 'go get it elsewhere' suggestion is not a remedy for a misunderstanding. It's a reason for breaking up for good. If you care about this girl, you better go retract your words ASAP and try to repair the damage.
Author Mjfru Posted March 22, 2004 Author Posted March 22, 2004 Hey thanks guys for the info, I think that we shouldn't of went on the break in the first place either, and no I didn't want to hook up with anyone else. It was like an experiment or something. We had taken a break a while back with the same rules and just thought that we should try it again. The only difference from then and now is that she didn't do anything and I just didn't think she would do anything anyway. So that is most of the reason why I was hurt. But thanks anyway. I will try telling her that we shouldn't take anymore breaks unless they are breakups and that we should just try to work out our problems from now on.
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