nature Posted January 18, 2011 Posted January 18, 2011 I tried posting this in Breakups, but really got nothing there, so posting it here to try and understand HIS behaviour.... Two years ago, my fiance and I broke up. He got cold feet, and started running around with his friends, partying like there was no tomorrow. We had been together almost 4 years, engaged for 2.5 of those years. We were supposed to be getting married and moving in together, and instead, he was avoiding me, getting drunk, and partying like he was 19 years old again. He did a complete 180. We had a big huge blowout and broke up. For a year after that, he kept emailing me, coming by my house, saying he blew it and missed me, and tried to get back together. At the same time, he was still partying like there was no tomorrow, so I said no, that I would not return to that behaviour and that he was in no way acting like someone who wanted a committed, adult relationship with me. Thus, after a year of communicating along the pretense of wanting to stay "friends", he cut me off. He got himself a new girlfriend immediately after the last time we talked. Yet I would still catch him driving by my house. A few months ago I go out for dinner with a few girlfriends. He walks in to the place with his new girlfriend, and even tho there were quite a few empty tables far away and out on the veranda, he chose to sit at the table right beside ours. It made me sick to my stomach seeing him sitting there with her, with her hand on his arm, googly eyed at each other. The other day i was walking my dog at the beach, adn he drove by staring at me, did a uturn on the road, and drove back by again. As far as I know he's still dating the new girl. It still saddens me, but at the same time, i'm not angry. Just wondering what he could be thinking. I know it's stupid I'm wondering, but I am. Why sit RIGHT BESIDE ME with a new girl? It seemed cruel to do that to me. He was the one who wanted out of the relationship & chose partying over me. I felt like I'd been kicked. But then a few months later be uturning & driving by me again while he has a girlfriend.
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