melb Posted January 18, 2011 Posted January 18, 2011 Mom Hates my BF!! HELPP NEED ADVICE PLEASEE! my mom never liked my bf from the beginning. She met him only once for like 10 min. and that was the only chance she ever gave him. My mom doesn't like him bc he use to be a heroin addict and experimented w. drugs in high school and basically went down the wrong road and hung out w the wrong crowd but he's clean now and it took him alot of time. I didnt meet him until he had been clean for a while but he was still going through the process of recovery..My bf told me about his situation and how he wanted a clean and sober life etc. But my mom found out more dirt about his past and i appreciate my mom so much for being there for me but should i know every detail about his past? so therefore she thinks he's a liar bc he didnt tell me everything.. The truth is he's a good guy w. a good heart, he has learned from his mistakes and we are both 21. i'm about to graduate and go into OT school(health care) and he is going back to school to hopefully pursue and engineering degree. There had been a lot of other stuff that had gone on between him and I like he told me once he was going to take my mom to court bc of all the stuff she found out about him etc..but in my eyes he's just immature and was saying stuff like that bc he was mad and frusterated bc of the strain his past had been on our relationship. my mom has told me multiple times that she doesnt feel like hes a safe person to be around and she will never let him into her life or my families. so it's really hard for me bc i see him as a great guy who made a bad decisions and i believe all people deserve 2nd chances.. he treats me really well and opens doors for me, takes me out frequently, really sweet guy, treats me like a princess , he carries my books very chilvarous.. i just dont know what to do anymore.. please help..
richbad08 Posted January 19, 2011 Posted January 19, 2011 So its good that he's sober and he's a gentleman but just think what your mom sees. she just needs to see how mature he is and see that he has his life together. If he's proving to be a MAN then your mom will see that. This may take time but if you really want to be with him then he has to try to be nice to your mom no matter the circumstances are. He may or may not like her but she is your mom so have him be a man and do his part.
Citizen Erased Posted January 19, 2011 Posted January 19, 2011 My mother would lock me in a room for a long, long time if I told her I was dating a recovering heroin addict. Be thankful you have freedom.
Aisha4457 Posted January 19, 2011 Posted January 19, 2011 Tell her she should admire him not slate him Does she know how hard it is to overcome an addiction? Anyone that does I take my hat off to. Yes there will be red flags going up for any mother but at least give the bugger a chance!
SincereOnlineGuy Posted January 20, 2011 Posted January 20, 2011 Mom Hates my BF!! HELPP NEED ADVICE PLEASEE! my mom never liked my bf from the beginning. She met him only once for like 10 min. and that was the only chance she ever gave him. My mom doesn't like him bc he use to be a heroin addict and experimented w. drugs in high school and basically went down the wrong road and hung out w the wrong crowd but he's clean now and it took him alot of time. I didnt meet him until he had been clean for a while but he was still going through the process of recovery..My bf told me about his situation and how he wanted a clean and sober life etc. But my mom found out more dirt about his past and i appreciate my mom so much for being there for me but should i know every detail about his past? so therefore she thinks he's a liar bc he didnt tell me everything.. The truth is he's a good guy w. a good heart, he has learned from his mistakes and we are both 21. i'm about to graduate and go into OT school(health care) and he is going back to school to hopefully pursue and engineering degree. There had been a lot of other stuff that had gone on between him and I like he told me once he was going to take my mom to court bc of all the stuff she found out about him etc..but in my eyes he's just immature and was saying stuff like that bc he was mad and frusterated bc of the strain his past had been on our relationship. my mom has told me multiple times that she doesnt feel like hes a safe person to be around and she will never let him into her life or my families. so it's really hard for me bc i see him as a great guy who made a bad decisions and i believe all people deserve 2nd chances.. he treats me really well and opens doors for me, takes me out frequently, really sweet guy, treats me like a princess , he carries my books very chilvarous.. i just dont know what to do anymore.. please help.. Is there anyone among your parents or grandparents who is/("was") an alcoholic???
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