J0N Posted January 18, 2011 Posted January 18, 2011 How many of you have gone NC only to never hear from your ex again? Like 6-12 months + Just curious. Thanks
lovesparis Posted January 18, 2011 Posted January 18, 2011 i had a tres mega bad breakup aug '07--- that's how i ended up joining this site. we had talked about marriage... planning on getting engaged the following march. i was IN LOVE. this was the big deal, the stuff dreams were made of. and he ended it. done. i went nuts. seriously lost it. and all my dignity along with it. i did everything i could to get him to change his mind. i tried discussing it rationally. i tried getting angry. i tried manipulating him. i sent emails. i left voicemails. i sent texts. i showed up at his apt. i BEGGED. MY MOTHER. TO CALL HIM. insane... like someone should have been filming it for a movie. it was completely surreal. (and due in a large part, i'm convinced, to the birth control i was on) he let me get the initial reactions off my chest but stopped answering my calls no longer than 2weeks. he dropped off my birthday presents with a note thanking me for that "chapter in his life." i went 4 months NC and broke it at christmas to congratulate him on a sobriety anniversary. he didn't answer. and that was it.... have not spoken to or heard from him again. we did "enjoy" a dinner out at tables RIGHT NEXT TO EACH OTHER *the most awkward and awful night one could imagine* for our respective mothers birthdays (honest to god coincidence) with our new significant others (i look like her --his now wife-- and he looked like my then bf... hell, he looks like ALL my boyfriends). i worked for his mother... and even she didn't know what to say/do. we just pointedly ignored each other. all 8 of us... and the next day at work his mom/my boss was like "omg, i'm so sorry... i didn't know what to do/say and i'm sure i handled it wrong and i hope you're not mad... blah blah blah" but yes... that would be nearly 3.5 years with NOT A WORD. and there will never be a word.
Sonolumino Posted January 18, 2011 Posted January 18, 2011 Give up that hope. Let it die. You will be much better off. I haven't spoken to her (nor she to me) in 4 months and there's no end in sight. Let it all go. The cycle is: Strangers to friends to lovers and back to strangers.
0hpenelope Posted January 18, 2011 Posted January 18, 2011 Me. Ex-ex. Stopped talking sometime in 2008. I'm pretty sure that's when I joined the site because I got the empowerment of NC. Looking like it for most recent ex as well. His loss. I'm moving on.
BlindRage Posted January 18, 2011 Posted January 18, 2011 (edited) i had a tres mega bad breakup aug '07--- that's how i ended up joining this site. we had talked about marriage... planning on getting engaged the following march. i was IN LOVE. this was the big deal, the stuff dreams were made of. and he ended it. done. i went nuts. seriously lost it. and all my dignity along with it. i did everything i could to get him to change his mind. i tried discussing it rationally. i tried getting angry. i tried manipulating him. i sent emails. i left voicemails. i sent texts. i showed up at his apt. i BEGGED. MY MOTHER. TO CALL HIM. insane... like someone should have been filming it for a movie. it was completely surreal. (and due in a large part, i'm convinced, to the birth control i was on) he let me get the initial reactions off my chest but stopped answering my calls no longer than 2weeks. he dropped off my birthday presents with a note thanking me for that "chapter in his life." i went 4 months NC and broke it at christmas to congratulate him on a sobriety anniversary. he didn't answer. and that was it.... have not spoken to or heard from him again. we did "enjoy" a dinner out at tables RIGHT NEXT TO EACH OTHER *the most awkward and awful night one could imagine* for our respective mothers birthdays (honest to god coincidence) with our new significant others (i look like her --his now wife-- and he looked like my then bf... hell, he looks like ALL my boyfriends). i worked for his mother... and even she didn't know what to say/do. we just pointedly ignored each other. all 8 of us... and the next day at work his mom/my boss was like "omg, i'm so sorry... i didn't know what to do/say and i'm sure i handled it wrong and i hope you're not mad... blah blah blah" but yes... that would be nearly 3.5 years with NOT A WORD. and there will never be a word. I feel your pain. Well its cool that you already went through it I seem to keep going in a limbo here and just keep the suffering. Edited January 18, 2011 by BlindRage
Eeyore79 Posted January 18, 2011 Posted January 18, 2011 I could probably name about ten exes who I haven't heard from since shortly after we split up. I don't expect to ever hear from them again. In each situation, one of us hurt the other one, so why would we want to see each other again?
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