sothis Posted January 17, 2011 Posted January 17, 2011 so this girl I've been seeing for about 2 months is a self admitted pessimist(i on the other hand am a pretty optimistic person) and had a pretty rough go of things this past year and has said she's having a hard time imagining things being any better this year....we've been getting along real well and i was feeling good about where things were going. about a week ago she totally disappeared stopping all contact. i called her once last week and we had a nice talk that was fairly short. i texted her yesterday and told her i was thinking about her and i am there if she needed anything. she apologized for being a stranger and said she needed to figure some things out and refocus, thanked me and said she'd def keep it in mind. i responded letting her know i understand she needs time and reminded her that i do like her.....at this point am i supposed to totally leave her alone and let her come to me? every so often send her a casual message to let her know I'm thinking of her or let her know I'm out and about and she's welcome to join me if she's in the mood? call her at some point? I'm well aware this could be the beginning of the end, but at the same time she might genuinely need some time to work through some things and will come around when she feels better.....what should i do here?
1ofMany Posted January 17, 2011 Posted January 17, 2011 The best advice I can give you is to let her see for herself. In saying this I mean she must feel your absence and decide if she needs you in her life as a romantic partner or not. Trust me, you can argue until you are blue in the face with someone but you will never truly change their mind with words. She must come to the conclusion herself for it to work. Give her space and maybe send a quick hi here and there if you notice she is online. If she needs you and wants you she will come around.
depplover_1980 Posted January 17, 2011 Posted January 17, 2011 She sounds moody. Go find someone who enjoys life.
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