MissVegas Posted January 17, 2011 Posted January 17, 2011 So you guys have probably read my posts about my boyfriend of four and a half years.. The last thing that happened was he ditched me on new years and I was upset about it and then he was really drunk that night pissing on the dance floor and walking around shirtless. Anyways I didn't contact him after that and he didn't contact me except for text messages about what he was doing in his daily activities or something like that. I told him I didn't understand why he was sending me these messages when things weren't okay with us and he wasn't apologizing or asking to talk about things or anything like that. He was out of town so I didn't contact him and thought when he got back he would contact me and apologize and i would set firm boundaries and we would work through this... But this morning I woke up and he's deleted me and all my friends from his facebook. Like I'm a piece of trash. I didn't do that to him. I spent four and a half years with him and I did stuff for his family, i loved his family, I took him to vegas, i was always bringing him treats and helping him out if he needed anything, I backrubbed him to sleep everynight, I always showed him how much I loved him and was always there for him whenever he needed me and I supported him and I just can't come to terms with the fact that I mean nothing to him that he can just let me go so easily... Please help? What do I do...I feel like I put my absolute everything into something and I ended up a piece of trash that can just be thrown away. I am so devastated. What did i do wrong? How can someone just throw someone away like that?? Do you think there's another woman in this case??
Duckduckgoose Posted January 17, 2011 Posted January 17, 2011 ummm... did he do anything in return? ^^^^ This ^^^^ Also... drunk and pissing on the dance floor? Shirtless? That didn't give me a good mental image of this guy.
nature Posted January 17, 2011 Posted January 17, 2011 I'm confused. When and how did you actually break up? Was it after the shirtless/pee fest on the dance floor? Were the words actually said "let's breakup" or was it simply his deletion of you on FB? Need more specifics. Bet you were proud to be with somone who would pee on a dancefloor and take his shirt off. Wow, a class act!
Author MissVegas Posted January 17, 2011 Author Posted January 17, 2011 when he was ditching me for new years I was asking him not to go and I said basically like do you want a relationship or you want a night out with the guys? And he said "I'm going to bed my head is pounding" the next morning i texted him and he was already in the other city. And then he texted me on Jan.1st being like are you ignoring me? and i basically said i don't want a guy in my life who ditches his girlfriend of 4.5 years on new years because she's a nurse and has to work. He could have done something in town and i would have met up with him after... Then he texted me a couple times that week saying "i love my nephews" and "i'm spending the weekend with my nephews" .. and i said why are you texting me acting like everything is fine when it's not? You need to take responisibility for your actions and how you treat people and you can call me if you want to talk about it... And then he didn't text me at all after that. And now...Deletion...
geno1031k Posted January 17, 2011 Posted January 17, 2011 You can do a lot better hun.. But I know 4 and half years is a long time and it seems like a waste when you break up, but don't think about it in that sense. Just think of it as a really good learning experience of what not to look for in a guy. From the sound of it you can do a lot better... peeing on the dance floor and walking around shirtless, lol that's hella embarrassing.... And to answer your question, you just never know if he is involved with someone else... I say try and fill up your free time, having nothing to do will get you thinking and dwelling on your past, and you don't wanna live back then... You want to live in the present and think about your future...with someone who'll treat you right. Good Luck! Subliminal Hypnosis http://www.ConfidentReviews.com
nature Posted January 17, 2011 Posted January 17, 2011 You already know the answer to this. You just don't want to see it. We've all been there. You know what you have to do. You know all of your own answers. The only thing you have to do now is listen to your brain and not your heart. That's the hardest thing about acceptance that a relationship is over. Not letting your heart and your feelings overrun your brain. I am sure you are an intelligent woman with dignity. Is this really what you want in your life? Your self esteem has taken a nose dive because of his behaviour. But if this was one of your friends putting up with this, and you were an onlooker, how would you see this? Be honest with yourself. I would say this guy has a few problems: 1. immaturity 2. selfishness 3. drinking etc, etc, etc You know what you have to do. Muster up that dignity and pride, and don't let yourself stoop to his level. Rise far, far above like a classy lady. Walk away with your class in tact. Do not react to his childish behaviour. I would rather be single than with someone who even remotely treated me the way this jackass treated you. And if you weren't feeling down right now, you'd understand what I'm saying. Believe me, I've been where you are right now. One day you will be looking at it like me, thinking how on earth did I put up with that or accept that?
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