Akumark Posted January 17, 2011 Posted January 17, 2011 I'm still feeling pretty good overall, working on myself again everyday, gym, meeting, seeing friends, working hard, maybe even starting something with a new girl that I like a lot... BUT ! Don't even ask me why () , I saw a pictures of the girl I'm coping for yesterday,she looked pretty sad on it, she was saying how bad she was feeling in the description of the picture. Since I've been feeling kinda over it in the previous days but I still want to make some kind of apology someday for my previously bad behavious (even if I think we are all square) I send her a text saying : You don't look well, are you OK? Right after I sended it, I started feeling bad (sad, anxious, little obssesive) and right now I' trying to think of other things and just came here to let it out and move on! Even when you feel ok sometimes breaking NC is not a good idea, even if you are the person saying you want space. It's really all about yourself, who cares really if she's not ok, I just wish (again) that I'd never send this text but eh... it's done. I hope she won't respond to it ! Lasted 3 weeks, I'll try to do better folks.
angelboots Posted January 17, 2011 Posted January 17, 2011 I had my ex contact me on new years and we ended up sending midnight on the phone at our respective parties talking........... three weeks of NC at the time also wasted, as now i know "friendship" was a desperate delusional dream too..he hasn't changed. Just was playing hes game by a different set of rules. Breaking NC is a definite no no. It just causes more hurt in the end. Stay strong and continue on the up and up. I was also starting to see someone new (had been three weeks NC but broken up for three months) I think part of me was scared about developing feelings for the new guy, which is why i allowed him to come back into my life at that point and while i never let contact be more then friendly between my ex and I, i would be lying if i said i didn't think i still had feelings for him or thoughts that maybe he had changed.. which he hasn't. It ruined all my progress and made me shut down on a genuinely nice stable guy which sux. If she does reply, think twice about replying to her again, its really all a downward spiral to the way you felt when it first ended. good luck x
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