FreeheartLover Posted January 17, 2011 Posted January 17, 2011 Um... seeing her around town would probably make me angry right now, but I would just ignore the feeling and act nonchalant. Dunno what it will take to make that change. Time. Seriously though... Why this guy? I figured at first maybe he has a huge dick or is some fantastic lover since so many married women seem to want his nuts. However... I've since heard he isn't anything special in those departments. Sounds like a creep - maybe she deserves him. He kind of defies all the rules of attractive. He is lazy at his job, and has a low level position despite his tenure and age has never been promoted. All I can think is that he leads an active partying lifestyle and does recreational drugs. I've had girls dump me for other guys before... but not like this. Don't worry about her perogative - just be glad she's not leeching off of you anymore!
Author Untouchable_Fire Posted January 17, 2011 Author Posted January 17, 2011 Sounds like a creep - maybe she deserves him. Don't worry about her perogative - just be glad she's not leeching off of you anymore! How did I let a woman who makes over 100k a year jack me for that much money? I feel like such a schmuck for believing.
Questionis Posted January 17, 2011 Posted January 17, 2011 How did I let a woman who makes over 100k a year jack me for that much money? I feel like such a schmuck for believing. Don't worry, you trust people who you care about and you help them when they need it. She should be asking herself that question. Why did I take that guys's money when I have so much of my own? What kind of person am I? She shouldn't be contacting you to talk, she should just mail you a check with your money!
dispatch3d Posted January 17, 2011 Posted January 17, 2011 I feel like I'm over it. It's just I still hate her, and I don't want to hate her anymore. Forgiving her for all the bad things she did is really something you have to do yourself, more than she has to do for you. What I mean is you don't really require her input, kinda just have to grow to accept she's become a different person, a much more negative person, and is probably reallly really unhappy inside. That's just my guess from all the bad things she's been associated with in the past. It doesn't sound like she wants to come out of the mess of a life she's in, and I wouldn't want to be within 10 meters of the thing (you're likely american so you can use feet). I'd just leave it alone, unless one day she decides to text "I've been a terrible person. I want to give you back the 10k." It may, unfortunately, be unreasonable to expect that. Especially when she's dating such a terrible guy.
Questionis Posted January 18, 2011 Posted January 18, 2011 Madame, où est mon argent? Nice! Yeah so much better than going gangster on her
Author Untouchable_Fire Posted January 18, 2011 Author Posted January 18, 2011 Don't worry, you trust people who you care about and you help them when they need it. She should be asking herself that question. Why did I take that guys's money when I have so much of my own? What kind of person am I? She shouldn't be contacting you to talk, she should just mail you a check with your money! I'm pretty sure she feels like she deserves the money. For what reason I can't possibly fathom. I think I would have to be female to really understand. Kind of like how it's a guys job to pay for dates... ect. I think it's an extension of that type of thinking. She comes from a crazy rich family. Forgiving her for all the bad things she did is really something you have to do yourself, more than she has to do for you. What I mean is you don't really require her input, kinda just have to grow to accept she's become a different person, a much more negative person, and is probably reallly really unhappy inside. That's just my guess from all the bad things she's been associated with in the past. It doesn't sound like she wants to come out of the mess of a life she's in, and I wouldn't want to be within 10 meters of the thing (you're likely american so you can use feet). I'd just leave it alone, unless one day she decides to text "I've been a terrible person. I want to give you back the 10k." It may, unfortunately, be unreasonable to expect that. Especially when she's dating such a terrible guy. I think I have forgiven her... but I'm still angry. Its confusing. She did change. When she loved me... she loved me... when she didn't, it felt like she kind of wanted me to stop existing. Which is fine, because I was unhappy too with parts of the relationship... I just expected to put in the effort to work it out. Anyway... she isn't a stupid person, and she was always the front row in church type. Why is she with this guy? Why couldn't she pick someone richer or more handsome or younger or a guy with a horse size wiener? Ugh!
dispatch3d Posted January 18, 2011 Posted January 18, 2011 I'm pretty sure she feels like she deserves the money. For what reason I can't possibly fathom. I think I would have to be female to really understand. Kind of like how it's a guys job to pay for dates... ect. I think it's an extension of that type of thinking. She comes from a crazy rich family. I think I have forgiven her... but I'm still angry. Its confusing. She did change. When she loved me... she loved me... when she didn't, it felt like she kind of wanted me to stop existing. Which is fine, because I was unhappy too with parts of the relationship... I just expected to put in the effort to work it out. Anyway... she isn't a stupid person, and she was always the front row in church type. Why is she with this guy? Why couldn't she pick someone richer or more handsome or younger or a guy with a horse size wiener? Ugh! because misery loves company, and she seeemsss really unhappy. Maybe these texts are a sign she's coming out of it? Who knows, lets hope so (for her sake). I would be surprised if she carried out all those awful acts and ended up with a happy person. I'd have a hard time being friends with someone who did those things.
Author Untouchable_Fire Posted January 18, 2011 Author Posted January 18, 2011 because misery loves company, and she seeemsss really unhappy. Maybe these texts are a sign she's coming out of it? Who knows, lets hope so (for her sake). I would be surprised if she carried out all those awful acts and ended up with a happy person. I'd have a hard time being friends with someone who did those things. I've pretty much lost my faith in Karma. From what I see the meanest most ruthless people are always rewarded so long as they play by the rules.
Questionis Posted January 19, 2011 Posted January 19, 2011 I'm pretty sure she feels like she deserves the money. For what reason I can't possibly fathom. I think I would have to be female to really understand. Kind of like how it's a guys job to pay for dates... ect. I think it's an extension of that type of thinking. She comes from a crazy rich family. She took your money and she is from a rich family? What the??? I don't think it's a guy's job to pay but it's a way of showing they are are caring and unselfish i.e. good boyfriend material I let a guy pay the first time if I really like him and know I will see him again, so I will pay the next time. If I don't I insist on splitting it so I can walk away guilt free, sure he had to spend time and get ready and make his way there but so did I! Anyway she a mean and nasty person, hope you stay clear of her
Questionis Posted January 19, 2011 Posted January 19, 2011 I've pretty much lost my faith in Karma. From what I see the meanest most ruthless people are always rewarded so long as they play by the rules. This is true but its also true that, as they are so mean all their victories are hollow. You can have only a fraction of their success but be happier than them.
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