sarahlove233 Posted January 17, 2011 Posted January 17, 2011 My ex and I just broke up and he really really wants me to be friends with him. To me, this is, I can keep you around without having to be with you.I just don't think I could be friends with him because I would get hurt if I saw him with other guys. Do you agree this is probably not a good idea?
PegNosePete Posted January 17, 2011 Posted January 17, 2011 If you don't want to, then don't. There is no law that you have to do what he wants. In general it's better to not be friends, especially if you still have feelings or anger or hurt.
damian Posted January 17, 2011 Posted January 17, 2011 Its a very bad idea. Stay away or you draw out the pain for longer.
Eeyore79 Posted January 17, 2011 Posted January 17, 2011 I don't think it's a good idea to be friends with an ex, for several reasons. 1) If you're the dumpee, it makes it more difficult to get over your ex and move on. 2) If you're the dumper, it gives the dumpee false hope that you might still be interested. 3) You're opening yourself up to potential hurt when you eventually have to see your ex with someone else. 4) You're potentially causing issues with future relationships for both of you; people typically don't like it when their partner's ex is still hanging around.
january2011 Posted January 17, 2011 Posted January 17, 2011 (edited) I'm also in the "no" group in terms of being friends with exes. Especially immediately after a breakup. I've known people who've re-connected years later and managed to build a friendship but feelings are usually too raw soon after a breakup for a friendship to develop. Edited January 17, 2011 by january2011
Author sarahlove233 Posted January 17, 2011 Author Posted January 17, 2011 That's what I thought. But, I guess now friendship is out of the question. He just told me he doesn't give a **** about us anymore and I'll never see him again...dramatic much?
PegNosePete Posted January 17, 2011 Posted January 17, 2011 Dramatic yeah, and probably just trying to get a reaction out of you. He probably won't stick to it. Don't reply, and just ignore him if he contacts you any more. Do not reply to his apologies or well wishes or happy birthday's.
dont-be-naive Posted January 17, 2011 Posted January 17, 2011 My ex and I just broke up and he really really wants me to be friends with him. To me, this is, I can keep you around without having to be with you.I just don't think I could be friends with him because I would get hurt if I saw him with other guys. Do you agree this is probably not a good idea? I don't see it as a good idea, but not because of anything you stated. Lets say you find another guy and its really serious and you fall in love with him. Ask yourself, would you want him to be friends with a girl he was intimate with? basically you need to think how this might bode for future relationships.
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