amandalou Posted January 17, 2011 Posted January 17, 2011 i was dating this guy, but we broke up because of my assignment overseas. the plan was/still is that we would break up and then reconnect when i got back to the states. im in love with him, but i don't know if him and i will be together when i get back. i want to be with him, but i want to be happy (which i am currently not). we made these plans to avoid any trouble and pain more than necessary. is it ok to date other people while we are apart, even though we plan on getting back together when i return?
tigressA Posted January 17, 2011 Posted January 17, 2011 It depends on what you two decide together. You either agree to be broken up and date other people while you're apart, or you agree to stay together and not date other people. If you plan on reconnecting with each other when you return...then what's the point of breaking up?
Author amandalou Posted January 17, 2011 Author Posted January 17, 2011 i will be gone for a year and part of the reason we broke up is because he has personal issues that need to be dealt with and a relationship is not something he needs right now. we both want to be together, but right now is not an option.
East7 Posted January 17, 2011 Posted January 17, 2011 i was dating this guy, but we broke up because of my assignment overseas. the plan was/still is that we would break up and then reconnect when i got back to the states. im in love with him, but i don't know if him and i will be together when i get back. i want to be with him, but i want to be happy (which i am currently not). we made these plans to avoid any trouble and pain more than necessary. is it ok to date other people while we are apart, even though we plan on getting back together when i return? It is amazing how people "plan" to reconnect. It may work or not, it depends, you can't plan feelings. Dating other people is definitely a deal-breaker. You can't go back like nothing happened. i will be gone for a year and part of the reason we broke up is because he has personal issues that need to be dealt with and a relationship is not something he needs right now. we both want to be together, but right now is not an option. It sounds that your BF has more a commitment issue rather than a problem with long-distance. If you really want each-other, 1 year away is not that terrible, there are millions of people out there having LDRs.
Emilia Posted January 17, 2011 Posted January 17, 2011 i was dating this guy, but we broke up because of my assignment overseas. the plan was/still is that we would break up and then reconnect when i got back to the states. im in love with him, but i don't know if him and i will be together when i get back. i want to be with him, but i want to be happy (which i am currently not). we made these plans to avoid any trouble and pain more than necessary. is it ok to date other people while we are apart, even though we plan on getting back together when i return? my advice to you is to move on. you can't plan to get back with someone, 1 year is way too long for that. I do sympathise with your situation, in some ways I'm in a similar one (my ex is in the British Army) which is why I'm telling you the best thing is to cut your losses and find someone else. you may end up hearing from one another over time but your bond is not likely to survive this long
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