SithLord Posted January 17, 2011 Posted January 17, 2011 Fellow LS users, have you ever told he or she you never want to be friends again with an Ex girlfriend or boyfriend, and they contact u again and want to start the relationship again?
Am4Real Posted January 17, 2011 Posted January 17, 2011 Fellow LS users, have you ever told he or she you never want to be friends again with an Ex girlfriend or boyfriend, and they contact u again and want to start the relationship again? Yes! In that category it's 100% certain after they have been told they come back and try to wiggle into places they were asked to stay out of.
Author SithLord Posted January 17, 2011 Author Posted January 17, 2011 Yes! In that category it's 100% certain after they have been told they come back and try to wiggle into places they were asked to stay out of. I told my Ex that after 2 months of no contact because i did not want to be a doormat especially that she is currently going thru troubles in her rebound relationship she is still currently in. she wanted to be my friend and felt a lil weird not having me around after 3 years together. I am letting time do its thing.
Am4Real Posted January 17, 2011 Posted January 17, 2011 I told my Ex that after 2 months of no contact because i did not want to be a doormat especially that she is currently going thru troubles in her rebound relationship she is still currently in. she wanted to be my friend and felt a lil weird not having me around after 3 years together. I am letting time do its thing. It's the right move. Keep in mind it is hard for both sides to let go totally and friendship may work for some but for most it's a distraction, annoyance and reminder of feelings and times from the past.
Author SithLord Posted January 17, 2011 Author Posted January 17, 2011 It's the right move. Keep in mind it is hard for both sides to let go totally and friendship may work for some but for most it's a distraction, annoyance and reminder of feelings and times from the past. all she kept saying we can be good friends and she saw she was missing out on everything i was doing since we have mutual friends. she wanted to enjoy the perks of being with me , but not in a relationship. after two weeks of talking thru text, i didnt want to be friends bc i told her why would u wanna be friends with someone who told me that i ruined her college experience etcc. she didnt want to tell me miss but u can tell she did. people say she'll call again although i said that, am i real what u think? her birthday next month, a day before valentine day lol.
SimonSerenade Posted January 17, 2011 Posted January 17, 2011 To be blunt, you simply can't be friends with someone your in love with, take it from someone who made an ass out of himself trying, best just to tell her straight and never look back, friendship works for some but not all, certainly not anyone on this site anyway
0hpenelope Posted January 17, 2011 Posted January 17, 2011 Always gets me when they ask to be friends right after. "Because it's the right thing to do?" Sorry, bud. Life doesn't work that way. You want to cut me loose, you don't get to have anything of me. Get back to me when you want to talk about trying again but otherwise, leave me the heck alone. Anyways, YES brother. Not me, but stories from others. It's really basic psychology: we want what we can't have. Us dumpees want them back for a while until we get over it. Dumpers want us as friends for whatever reason, to which I say since they want us out of their life, they should just stay gone. To answer 2/3 of your questions, ex-ex broke up with me, we tried to be friends, but became FWB. Silly girl I was thought he was with me because he was looking to reconcile. Did I tell him I never want to be friends with him again? Yes. Did he contact me again? Yes. Did he reconcile with me? No. But I "dumped" him when I realized he was being an azz. Boy still can't look me in the eye whenever I see him. :lmao: What a coward.
DellPickle Posted January 17, 2011 Posted January 17, 2011 Ive seen others do it, Ive seen friends who when told they cant be friends if they break up with their SO have a hard time breaking up with them
Author SithLord Posted January 17, 2011 Author Posted January 17, 2011 She came bak to me after 2 Months and then I told her I don't want to be friends, I want her to come bCk and want me, but it's how I feel now. It'll pass
LostMyHeart Posted January 17, 2011 Posted January 17, 2011 I don't think it's totally unheard of...really depends on how the relationship ended. If there was fighting all the time and it's just about pulling punches, then no...it's not healthy. I guess the hardest part is still having feelings for them and where your head is at. I think two people can be friends and care about each other, but just don't talk about the past and the relationship. Probably easier if the relationship started out as friends....gives it a foundation to build that off of.
Author SithLord Posted January 17, 2011 Author Posted January 17, 2011 I don't think it's totally unheard of...really depends on how the relationship ended. If there was fighting all the time and it's just about pulling punches, then no...it's not healthy. I guess the hardest part is still having feelings for them and where your head is at. I think two people can be friends and care about each other, but just don't talk about the past and the relationship. Probably easier if the relationship started out as friends....gives it a foundation to build that off of. She claims we fought alot, we did long distance for 3 years...iM POSITIVE ill hear from her again in the future.....she needs to learn bullshhhh...
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