brigadoondrive Posted January 17, 2011 Posted January 17, 2011 Here is the full story. My best friend of about 7 years and his wife never really got along. However, me and her always had a close connection and a spark. He was very controlling of her and basically scared her to death. (I didnt know thats how he treated her until later or else I never would have been friends with the guy). She had talked to me about divorcing him and getting rid of him. Well while we talked about it, we started realizing we had feelings for each other. We began talking more and more and realizing we wanted to be with each other. Her ex ended up being a jerk when she asked him to leave cause she wanted a divorce. He ended up breaking into the house and trying to take her out of the house - he ended up getting probation and a little jail time. Anyhow, she and I kept on talking and dating. I moved in with her in January of last year. The break in happened the previous September. Since then we have been doing great! We talk about everything and are honest about everything. We always enjoy each others company. Her divorce went final in December. And since me and her had talked alot about getting married I decided to propose and she said yes. I thought it was gonna be great. She had been telling me alot lately that i was criticizing her. I was asking alot of questions trying to understand why she did things the way she did. It never occurred to me that me asking so many questions came across to her as me not believing in her and even fussing or criticizing her. We got into a rare fight about a week and half ago. The next morning she left me a note saying she was sorry we couldnt work it out and then left the ring on top and asked me to leave the house. Ive left the house even though i still have alot of furniture and stuff there. I still have house keys and she knows it. Her daughter who lives with us and is 14, told me she would talk to me when shes ready and needs space. Ive tried to explain myself and apologize for hurting her because i just didnt see how it came across that way. The question I have is what should I do? Do you think I scared her by maybe making her feel i didnt believe in her or have faith in her. We were engaged only about two weeks and everything i thought was fine. Thanks for reading this long story. I love her and really believe she is the one for me. Am I an idiot or should i hold out and hope?
Author brigadoondrive Posted January 17, 2011 Author Posted January 17, 2011 Anybody? Am I stupid for even having hope? She did tell me over the weekend through a text that she was doing well but that she wasnt ready to talk. Someone tell me something - Im going nuts thinking about it. I love her and truly believes she loves me as well. HELP! haha
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