so_mo34 Posted January 16, 2011 Posted January 16, 2011 so stupid me decides to get involved with a guy i work with. he is 36 and i a 23. i let him use me and treat me like **** for a year and a half. i have some issues and somehow just wanted his approval. so now i am stuck on him and everytime at work when i see him feels like im going to cry. i definitly learned my lesson though. anyways i may have an option of transferring to a different store location. only thing is i like most of the people there and might miss them, but this guy is giving me misery. i know i will only get over him if he is out of my sight. do you think i should try to transfer? i am worried i may regret transerring if i do. what do you think is the right thing?
Madgick1 Posted January 16, 2011 Posted January 16, 2011 How is he giving you misery? Or are you just miserable seeing him and his behavior is impecable? If he's giving you a hard time, it might be best to contact human resources. If seeing him ignore you or watching him flirt with other girls, is what's making you miserable, either get over it or transfer.
Nexus One Posted January 17, 2011 Posted January 17, 2011 i am worried i may regret transerring if i do. What will you risk when you transfer? Will you get lower pay? Will you sabotage your own promotion? What are the downsides exactly that you are weighing?
Author so_mo34 Posted January 17, 2011 Author Posted January 17, 2011 What will you risk when you transfer? Will you get lower pay? Will you sabotage your own promotion? What are the downsides exactly that you are weighing? my pay won't get lowered and i won't sabotage any promotions.. i just might regret it because i would miss the people i work with currently.
Nexus One Posted January 17, 2011 Posted January 17, 2011 i just might regret it because i would miss the people i work with currently. That's not a decision either I or anyone else besides you can make, because we don't know how close you are to your colleagues and how much you value them. Maybe you can take a look at the department you intended to transfer to. In order to see if you might like it there and to see how the people there are. Just to take a look you know, without making a decision about it immediately.
KennyD Posted January 17, 2011 Posted January 17, 2011 I am in the same situation. my part time job is at a grocery store. My lover (ex girlfriend from the past, now lover...) works with me too. I had to take off weeks of work, and it didnt help. I tried to transfer, and got denied. Everytime I see her, My heart breaks. Its been 7 months and it still doesnt go away Now we talk, and are "lovers"....and let me tell you- TRANSFER. TRUST ME, you won't "get over it"...you see him/her everyday. All these people on here talk about "No contact"....you dont know how it is unless you WORK with them...it's 100x worse. I tried to even ignore her, and she became to be everywhere I was....look the other way only works for a few months then it hurts you more.
Questionis Posted January 18, 2011 Posted January 18, 2011 I have had this problem, and I couldn't transfer. I put a big smile on my face while staying as far away from him as possible. And keeping it really light when I was forced out of politeness to speak to him. I would then go back to my desk or find somewhere quiet and cry my eyes out. I did this for a year and one day I found I didn't cry was just a little bit sad and I then I realised I was over him. I am very emotional person, so maybe you can do it in half the time!
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