Banyanbanyan Posted January 16, 2011 Posted January 16, 2011 Hello everyone. This is first post on here so here goes: I got my first girlfriend when I was 18. I'm 20 now and haven't had anything even close to that since then. I've been told many times that I'm handsome, cute, ect. so I know that that's not the problem. I am very smart but also kinda awkward and clumsy when it comes to talking to anyone unfamilier but especially pretty girls. I should also say that I don't have that "I'm a man!" attitude that most guys have. I say this because it seems to me that most guys use this as part of their way of getting girls but the many lady friends I have like me because I don't have that. Sorry this post is so long and rambling and poorly constructed (I'm in a mcdonalds only cell phone and there is only 20percent of battery remaining) I guess my basic point is this: HELP! Im 20 years old and even though I'm not all about "baggin' hot chicks" Like alot of guys my age, I still need some contact with the opposite sex. And I really wouldn't mind a girlfriend.
shayan Posted January 18, 2011 Posted January 18, 2011 I'm all about being yourself and all. But there are some qaulities that i feel girls truly desire, security, confidence, strength, independence. In other words that don't wan't a pushover guy. So I say work on yourself and become confident with who you are and that practice being more assertive with women and see how it goes.
Stilicho Posted January 19, 2011 Posted January 19, 2011 be yourself, but like the poster above said, display confidence and strength. girls need to feel at first, that you like them, but dont need them(in my experience), it makes them want you more/ also, dont be afraid to talk to any girl, ive gotten my best(and prettiest) girlfriends by just talking to them even though i felt they were out of my league.
Author Banyanbanyan Posted January 21, 2011 Author Posted January 21, 2011 Alright. Thanks for the tips. I am in a place with many prettygirls so I will give it a try and see how it goes.
Nightsky Posted January 21, 2011 Posted January 21, 2011 Having the ability to recognize there are many pretty girls is half the battle. So, congratulations.
portableversion Posted January 27, 2011 Posted January 27, 2011 one way i discovered to build up confidence, quit masturbating for a while. After a week or so, that shyness should be out the window. Works for me any way.
z00m25 Posted January 27, 2011 Posted January 27, 2011 you have to get over the fear of looking dumb in front of people. who cares what other people think of you if you mess up. worst comes to worse you never speak to that person again.
Ross PK Posted January 27, 2011 Posted January 27, 2011 Is it the girls themselves who tell you you're handsome? I can't really imagine any situations where girls would just come out with telling a guy he's handsome, unless they were making out or they were boyfriend and girlfriend or something.
Truthseeker-John Posted January 30, 2011 Posted January 30, 2011 (edited) Hello everyone. This is first post on here so here goes: ... I am very smart but also kinda awkward and clumsy when it comes to talking to anyone unfamiliar but especially pretty girls. You are shy of pretty girls as I was at your age. I should also say that I don't have that "I'm a man!" attitude that most guys have. I say this because it seems to me that most guys use this as part of their way of getting girls but the many lady friends I have like me because I don't have that. So there we have it. The more you mix with people the more you will overcome your feeling awkward and uncomfortable because of pretty girls. Saying that, some very physically attractive girls do (not always) turn out to be vain and they know that lots of men are looking at them... take care and try not to worry about it too much. You are only 20 and there is time for you yet. Edited January 30, 2011 by Truthseeker-John
Xewkija Posted January 30, 2011 Posted January 30, 2011 Alright. Thanks for the tips. I am in a place with many prettygirls so I will give it a try and see how it goes. Would this place be Mcdonalds? haha
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