worlybear Posted January 16, 2011 Posted January 16, 2011 I am soooooo angry tonight!:mad: Just spoke to my oldest son who is tagged and currently living with his father OW and her 10 yr old daughter. During the conversation I found out that STBXH is taking OW'S daughter to school every day. Quote"I don't want to do the family thing anymore."(STBXH to me as he left.) I have to drop our daughter at a friend's house early every morning ,so I can get to my job on time. Yes I know that millions of mums do the same as me- but what really p***** me off is that he is a full time Dad and teacher to her daughter and he hasn't seen our daughter for over a year! I am absolutely fuming. And exhausted. And depressed. If it wasn't for my daughter, I'd give up. Everything seems to be going hunky dory for them. WHY? It seems to me that cheating and lying pays big time! WHY?
Racoon Posted January 16, 2011 Posted January 16, 2011 Been there. I hate that. The best words to rely on is "What comes around, goes around". Keep your chin up, dont let him know that it is bothering you, because it will bring him joy knowing it. His bottom will soon fall out, whether you will know it or not. It happens to all of us. And he really doesnt seem to have it "all" together, or he would be attempting to see his daughter.
Author worlybear Posted January 16, 2011 Author Posted January 16, 2011 My daughter just shrugs her shoulders and says that she's not bothered but I'm sure ,deep down, that it gets to her.:(We swim every week and I am the only mum in her group of friends (all the other kids have their Dads take them and play with them.) We do loads of fun things together and I try my best to ensure that she doesn't miss out. My STBXH and I raised 4 other kids to adulthood- and although I did the most for the kids-at least he was there. Can someone please explain to me why then, is he is repeating so-called hated family life with someone else ? (Or has he been taken for a mug by OW-her own husband had little contact with her kids and she was looking for a dad for her daughter, especially.) And, for the record OW'S daughter is not a patch on his own- either in looks, charms or brains! Go figure! Mind you, our older kids are less than enthusiastic about his past fathering skills anyway and assure me that youngest daughter isn't missing much! Still,the fact that he ups and leaves his attractive, intelligent ,youngest daughter to me, God and good neighbours to raise, then starts a new job and pretends THEY are his family MAKES ME BOIL! What an absolute sh**! Hope it all comes tumbling down, soon.
Jdw_Icequeen Posted January 17, 2011 Posted January 17, 2011 When it happens it will be more revenge to them then you could have ever planned.. What they took for granted will bite them in the butt.. I don't know your story but I assume its the grass is greener system. 10 fold it will come back.. That dosen't mean they will regret there decisions. Living well is the only true revenge that will make our hearts content.. Try not to let the anger eat away at you!
Author worlybear Posted January 17, 2011 Author Posted January 17, 2011 When it happens it will be more revenge to them then you could have ever planned.. What they took for granted will bite them in the butt.. I don't know your story but I assume its the grass is greener system. 10 fold it will come back.. That dosen't mean they will regret there decisions. Living well is the only true revenge that will make our hearts content.. Try not to let the anger eat away at you! Believe me I'm trying very hard not to let this grind me down- but I am very frustrated that whatever I do seems to be 10x harder than what they do! For example- STBX walked away from mortgage and debts, found himself a rental for himself and new partner and then refused to pay on joint mortgage! I lost 2 stone worrying about the house and then (thankfully!) sold it. He walked straight into another full time job:mad:. And so did she! I have worked 2 maternity leaves but there are no f/t posts yet...(sigh). I won't feel confident about the future until I have a f/t job. I understand that karma is all to do with how you lived your previous life? Well all I can say is that I must've been a really bad bugger before, cos I'm getting loads of crap now! Still- I've got my wonderful daughter-and he's parenting a much less intelligent,unattractive version! Don't want him back- just want life to be more straightforward!
anne1707 Posted January 17, 2011 Posted January 17, 2011 Worly Just remember this. In years to come, you will not regret a moment spent with your daughter. Whereas your STBX will start to regret not having that time and will never be able to re-capture those years. Give your daughter love and she will be fine. With all her siblings too, she has a good family who love her very much and she will know that. Ultimately it is he who is losing out here, not her.
Author worlybear Posted January 17, 2011 Author Posted January 17, 2011 Thankyou. She is a great kid and I do think that he will be the loser eventually. Just gotta get past this bump in the road!...And stop thinking so much! (Thank God for boxed sets of House!)
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