sothis Posted January 16, 2011 Posted January 16, 2011 the back grounh: been seeing a girl for almost two months. things seemed to be getting better and better the more time we spent together and then after we hung out last weekend nothing! no contact what so ever. so i send her a text this morning to let her know i was thinking about her.....here is the exchange, curious what i should make of it and how to proceed? me: hope you're doing ok?!? i've been thinging about you...i know you have a lot going on but i want you to know i'm here for you if you need anything her: sorry i've been such a stranger. things are rough and i just need to figure it all out, refocus, something. thanks for the offer, i'm def keeping it in mind me: totally undersatnd and never want to be a pressure! if you need time, you need time! but you know i like you and if you feel the same just remember that kind of person can help us get thru the rough spots!
Nexus One Posted January 16, 2011 Posted January 16, 2011 In my opinion there's too little information there to say anything conclusive. Perhaps you're over-analyzing the situation.
Questionis Posted January 16, 2011 Posted January 16, 2011 Has she replied? Some people are weird about texting, try phoning her if she doesn't give a satisfactory response. If she keeps it up perhaps she has an ex back on the scenes and she is trying to decide whether to see him again? Or perhaps she is just a very bad communicator.Whatever you chose to do, remember love is a need, just like food. So sometimes you are tempted to have things which are not good for you so you don't go hungry. But if you do without food you will die and if you go without love you feel like you want to die.
ConflictedGuy27 Posted January 16, 2011 Posted January 16, 2011 (edited) the back grounh: been seeing a girl for almost two months. things seemed to be getting better and better the more time we spent together and then after we hung out last weekend nothing! no contact what so ever. so i send her a text this morning to let her know i was thinking about her.....here is the exchange, curious what i should make of it and how to proceed? me: hope you're doing ok?!? i've been thinging about you...i know you have a lot going on but i want you to know i'm here for you if you need anything her: sorry i've been such a stranger. things are rough and i just need to figure it all out, refocus, something. thanks for the offer, i'm def keeping it in mind me: totally undersatnd and never want to be a pressure! if you need time, you need time! but you know i like you and if you feel the same just remember that kind of person can help us get thru the rough spots! your approach seemed too serious for texting; and came across needy and boring, IMO. use text for playful banter, especially if you haven't seen her for awhile. e.g. "pssst... don't tell anyone but i'll be doing the coolest thing humanly imaginable [next wednesday]. i'm taking a few resumes for an accomplice; you may wanna apply. " I find being playful and use of exaggeration usually nets a silly response in kind that's off topic, but still conveys what you and she want. I could easily see a girl ask: "oh I should, should I? what are the qualifications?" an in kind response is gold. in the example above all I want is to let her know I want her to join me for something some time soon. it says I'm thinking of you, too (especially if it's been awhile). i keep the serious talk for face to face time; but that's just me. Edited January 16, 2011 by ConflictedGuy27
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