ewlandon Posted January 16, 2011 Posted January 16, 2011 Hi im new here. My long distance girlfriend and I broke up after visiting each other for 2 weeks. We met before I was moving away for 8 months and fell for each other and decided we would try to make it work since it was only 8 months. I really fell in love with this girl but there was some issues with arguments etc mostly because of the distance. Anyway I had an emotional outburst one night when we were visiting and I "broke up" with her. I really didnt want to and I wasnt thinking. But after I did that she said that it was what she wanted too. We kept seeing each other till I left. We kept telling each other we loved each other and that it wasnt goodbye etc. So I felt like even though we were broken up that there was still hope that we both wanted to wait the next 4 months to be together. Once I left she changed and wouldnt really talk to me and just kept saying it was over and that she moved on. It really hurt me that she changed so quickly and makes me think she never felt as strongly as me. Well I tried talking to her for a couple days but it was only through texts and she didnt say much more than "ive moved on" "your making this harder on yourself" etc etc. Its been like 4 days since we last spoke I told her I would never talk to her again and that I felt betrayed. I still think about her all the time and im struggling to not contact her but I think the fact is that she was ready to move on from me and I'm doing the same. I now think that I wont even call her when I do go home because if she so easily moved on and didnt want to work through some of this stuff with me than the relationship isn't and cant be what I thought it was. Do you think she will ever contact me? Do you think im doing the right thing? And do you think I should call her when I move back to our city?
is2008 Posted January 16, 2011 Posted January 16, 2011 wow, your story is almost identical to mine, except mine was international. when a girl says "move on" i think that's all you can do. i've just found out that my ex of 7 years has found someone else, with absolutely no chance of reconciliation. it's a tough pill to swallow. save yourself the trouble and heartache and maintain strict NC. if she truly loves you and wants to be with you, she'll find you. otherwise stop wasting your time on someone who doesn't care about you as much as you do them... now time to take a leaf out of my own book!!!!!!
Author ewlandon Posted January 16, 2011 Author Posted January 16, 2011 thanks for the reply. I actually found out later today that basically as soon as i left (couldnt be mroe than 2 days) she has a new boyfriend. SOmeone she calls her BOYFRIEND. after everything not only did she move on within days she has someone she is in a relationship with that quickly. Its just so ****ed up. And on top of all that when I told her I knew she was incredibly mean to me. Basically blaming everything on me being depressed and saying that IM a bitter person who will never see my own issues and blame everything on everyone else. Im so freaking shocked and blown away by this. I dont even know how to feel or think. She finished with "lose my number this is the last itme we should talk." Its so hard and hurtful to know that someone I fell for in this way and said they felt the same, can treat me this way and throw me out like that. Why do people lie in such important and hurtful ways. I had even asked her in a very logical non-confrontational way if there was someone else. I said "it would make sense if you found someone else. your so happy with your new job and there are so many guys that have a similar (religious) background as you and you seem very happy with them etc etc." She said "youre the only one for me there is no one else, this isnt goodbye this is just what we need for our relationship to be good when you return in 5 months" But then she is dating one of them withing a day or two of me leaving. Its just so ****ed up to me.
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