eb12321 Posted January 16, 2011 Posted January 16, 2011 Hi everyone. Looking for some advice/need to blow off some steam, so i'm hoping this is the place to do so. I've been with my girlfriend for 9 years, we've been dating since high school actually. During our undergraduate college years we were at separate schools and saw each other every 3 weeks or so. I liked being away but still able to see each other often. Now, a few years later we have been living together for nearly a year and a half and now she works full time and i'm now in grad school. During the last few weeks i've found myself questioning how much i want this relationship to go on. I have always loved her and still do, but recently she has become clingy, and honestly, kind of a drag. Our schedules don't align and many nights she will go to sleep before 10:00 and she hates it when i go out to meet friends for a drink. She prefers that i just hang out and watch tv in the living room, and honestly, i seem to have just given up trying to just go out with my friends because i dont want to have to deal with her getting upset. honestly, if you're asleep, why do i have to be trapped in the apartment too? I'm not sure what to do anymore? Anyone have any suggestions? Thanks, and i hope this semi coherent rambling makes sense.
D78 Posted January 16, 2011 Posted January 16, 2011 Have you talked to her about what you're feeling? Wait, I already know the answer is no There's a good chance your behavior has changed slightly in the past few weeks (since you first started to wonder whether you wanted the relationship to continue), and that's what is causing her to act clingy. I've never understood women who get annoyed when their boyfriends go out with their friends, so I can't really speak on that one. But, yeah, if she's asleep, there's no reason for you to sit around doing nothing. Why don't you tell her this? If she knew she was being a drag, at least she would have a chance to fix it. Not telling her means you're basically not interested in working on things. If you are in fact interested, talk to her about what she is doing that's bothering you. If she is unwilling to compromise, end it. If you are in fact not interested, talk to her about it. The worst thing you could do is say nothing. I know you don't want to deal with her being upset, but if you say nothing, you will be dealing with her being even more upset in the future when you eventually speak up. Good luck!
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