ab3 Posted January 16, 2011 Posted January 16, 2011 So i have been dating this 31 year old for the past 3 months. He has wanted to hang out with me every second i had a chance when I was off work.. I work 3, 12 hours shifts... So for the first 3 months we spent a ton of time together. Well, there has been some things that caused some difficulty. He has a 31 year old female roommate who is loud/attention seeking that he has been friends with for 12 years and rents a room in his house. That caused some drama between us because she would treat me condescendingly when he was not around and basically ****ty to me to my face..... So it caused some tension because i became uncomfortable with her. He recently keep on saying that she will be moving out soon.... Anyways.. Well after new years things got a little weird and he started not wanting to hang out everyday. So i was a little confused and wonder if it had anything to do with me telling him how uncomfortable his roommate makes me and that she is blatantly rude to me. Another factor in this is that her father passed away the night she was a huge bitch to me. Well we went out together on a date and after went to a bar and i invited my guy friend, whom came with a couple other people. That night he said he cant handle me having all these guy friends and them texting me all the time. He said it makes him uncomfortable that they like me and i talk to them in front of him. Also it makes him uncomfortable that 2 of them want me to move in. He continued on and said he needs some time to hang out with his friends and not feel bad for doing so. Then was like that he is 'messed up" and scared and pulls away after people get too close. he said some stuff about his childhood and his parents divorce and watching a step dad die of cancer.. Soo alot to take in. THe next morning I was like listen are we broken up or what and he was like no that wasnt what he was saying. Anyhow flash forward to the other night when we were in his bed he got a text from a ex which i found out later. Then hide his pictures on facebook after i tagged us in one from the other night. Well i end up breaking up with him via text because he was being shaddy and not giving me more than "im messed up" as a explanation. He continue to text me the next day like nothing happened and keep on going on and on about this job offer he just got to move to another city... then again the next day (i was working these 2 days so i working alot because of my 12 hour shifts). After he invited me to dinner on my day off i called him and was like what is up. I said i cant be with someone who is being weird and using being 'messed up" as the reason without being more clear. All he said is he gets nervous when people get close and hes scared. I was like alot of ppl are close to him and he said not like this. He said he backs away after people get close and he doesnt know and that he is taking it one day at a time. He said he cares about me and hes messed up.... So wtf is wrong with him??? I swear he stares me in the eyes like he loves me which is weird to say. I dont know if hes is seeing his ex or hes over me or hes in love with me and scared. But i broke up with him because of the weirdness not because i dont want to be with him. I told him to never call me because he said hes gonna call me. I just feel like I dont understand whats going on and cant be with him because I dont want to put myself out there is hes not going to open up.
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