ashleysun Posted January 16, 2011 Posted January 16, 2011 I have had quite a few questions about this new guy I've been seeing lately - if anybody was to look at my previous threads they would see that my most recent one aside from this one deals with this guy getting a DWI and acting distant. I asked him flat out why he has been so distant and he said he is just depressed over it and knows the way he is acting and feeling lately isn't fair to me - I agreed and told him that I'm over it at this point. I had pretty much checked him out of my book at this point. I had deleted him from facebook when he first started acting distant, which was probably 2 weeks prior to the DWI. He asked me about it a week later and I told him why. I made no hints etc that he should readd me, I figured he would if he wanted to smooth things over. We had a blow out a few months back and he deleted me (and readded me a few weeks later along with a message a few days later) Well now he has readded me to facebook, or at least tried (i have yet to confirm it). I'm so confused on this guy - a part of me questions if this is the beginning of yet ANOTHER cycle between us or if he truly wants to be friends. He used to tell me how he never does the things for girls that he has done for me and he likes me so much and wants me to be his girl. Sigh. I feel that this is a never ending cycle of questions. If any guys can give me insight on it that would help A LOT!
Nightsky Posted January 16, 2011 Posted January 16, 2011 He might have seen the error of his ways and genuinely like you. You should follow your gut instincts this could just be a never ending cycle of more of the same.
LeaningIntoTheMuse Posted January 16, 2011 Posted January 16, 2011 From his description, this sounds more like Bipolar depression. I'm not a psychologist, so I can't diagnose him, but the cycles of depression and feeling happy again are pretty easy to diagnose as Bipolar. However, this doesn't make him a bad person. If he does have the illness, he needs treatment. Regardless, you need to make it perfectly clear to him that the relationship is not moving forward, unless he changes. If he gives you the same old song and dance, leave. Make it clear that he's not to contact you again, or re-add you to Facebook. Even if he does have Bipolar, it's not your job to save him. You'll just be causing more stress to yourself. You need to let him go.
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