blackorchid Posted January 16, 2011 Posted January 16, 2011 (edited) So, I met this great guy around Thanksgiving time. He's great and everything was going so easy breezy and I couldn't believe it. I like him a lot he likes me etc... And we were spending time together almost everyday. It was just this great instant connection. He's like someone that I feel like I've known forever and at the sometime still gives me butterflies when he kisses me...and all that girlie stuff. I've never had a connection with someone as great as this. And he was being so "boyfriendy" all though we had just met and he hadn't made it clear whether or not we were a couple just everything was left up in the air. (I think I overused the word great greatly in that paragraph) After only tree amazing weeks, he moved to new york city which is far from the midwest (where I live), to take an amazing opportunity and I understand that. He said I can visit whenever and stay with him which makes it all the cheaper. But I don't know what WE ARE! I really like him and would love to visit and have been encouraged by him visit asap, but this sucks. I still don't know if he's my boyfriend, how he feels about me, weather or not I would want to take my time and money visiting him if he isn't really interested. Right after he left we were conversing a lot every single day. But recently he's been sluggish about communicating with me. I feel like he might be giving me a subtle hint that he's moving on with his life now and "nice knowing ya". I really don't feel like I have to talk to him everyday or even be his exclusive "girlfriend", but I really want to know what page he and I are on so to speak. I just want to ask him the "what are we and how do you feel about me question" but I don't know how to do that without making things weird. This is whole long distance thing is bothering me a lot more than I thought it would. I really miss him I guess and it's just hitting me now all though he left a few weeks ago. This is the first guy ever to make me feel this way and he's just gone. Should I tell him how I feel about him? Should I ask him how he feels about me? He has this cute thing where he says "you're the bomb" all the time and things like "happy new year, I hope 2011 is as awesome as you are" and stuff. So, I think I know he likes me. Or maybe he's just saying all the right things. I just want to know what the "plan" is so to speak. Thanks in advance if you have any advice/input on this very unclear post. btw. I'm 21 he's 23 both college kids that don't have a ton of money for traveling but new york, not around a major holiday is doable, on occasion. I'm relationship inept and would like to know what to do, I really don't want to mess this up! Edited January 16, 2011 by blackorchid
eidolon Posted January 16, 2011 Posted January 16, 2011 I think it really would be best to just talk about it with him. Why sit around speculating all day? Be straightforward and ask him what your relationship is with him, exactly, and what he wants it to be. He might be slow to respond because, as you said, he moved because of some amazing opportunity. He's probably a little busy Anyway, I'll leave it at that. Definitely have a nice little talk about it! Nothing scary. Best wishes
folieadeux Posted January 16, 2011 Posted January 16, 2011 You definitely need to establish where you are first before anything. If you guys decide to give it a go, the distance you're dealing with is very doable if both of you want it.
Author blackorchid Posted January 16, 2011 Author Posted January 16, 2011 Thank you both for your replies, I guess we need to talk.
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