Just when I thought I was out, she drags me back in.. and I say 'No thanks!'

[durkadurka]

Hey guys,

 

Wanted to say hello. I've been doing really well lately. I've started to make my plans, and getting ready to move in the next few months. It's taken a lot of preparation time, so I'm trying to get everything in order.

 

Last week, I finally became 'okay' with the idea of letting go. I realized that I'm okay with doing what is best for me, even if it means that I don't talk to her ever again.

 

Almost two weeks ago I told my ex off and clarified how I felt about the whole situation. I'd been ducking her phone calls for a week or two. She'd sent me a series of texts after Christmas, and New Years. Eventually I told her to sod off. After a week of silence, she said she missed me, and asked me if I was okay with not talking.

 

A few days passed, and I finally made my decision to be okay with how life was going and to really clear it up. For a long time I'd really wavered, I had been sending off missed signals.

 

I mustered up all of my courage and sent her this:

 

Hey X,

 

I really appreciated that text you sent me last weekend. I needed a few days to think some things over.

 

I appreciate that you miss talking to me, it's really gratifying. I would like to be able to talk to you too, but I don't think it's in the cards for either of us right now. You have a boyfriend. What you're asking from me to be dispassionate, not be attracted to you and to just be friends, and I can't do that.

 

Take care.

 

She responds by asking for my mailing address. I have no idea what she has planned, but one of my friends has already agreed to take it away and open it. I don't want to see it.

 

 

 

Life is good.

[Ajax]

Your response was dignified and honest. Good job.

 

Don't let her send you anything.

[durkadurka]

Your response was dignified and honest. Good job.

 

Don't let her send you anything.

 

My friend has already agreed to take the package and open it.

 

I'd prefer if she didn't. It took me a lot to get to the point where I was content with saying what needed to be said, and be okay with the fact that I will probably never talk to her again.

 

Maybe the finality of it all realized she shouldn't take he relationships for granted, and that not everyone in the world is so desperate to be her friend that they will put themselves through hell to be one of her friends.

 

That was not the objective, but if she learns, it might help her future friendships with other people.

[cerridwen]

What up durka?

Has she been blowing up your phone?