OceanGirl Posted January 16, 2011 Posted January 16, 2011 We had a really nice 7 hour 2nd date last night. He wouldn't let me pay for a anything at all. I am seeing him again in a couple of hours so I hope he will let me pay for lunch at least. Anyway, he is so sweet and affectionate towards me. I was a little worried because he didn't touch me or kiss me on the first date, but he made a move when we were at the movies. He first held my hand, then put an arm around me, and from there we progressed to fully making out. He constantly tells me how stunning I am, how nice I am, how smart etc etc. He said that he can't believe how many stupid and boring people he met from that website but it's all been worth it because he got to meet me. He already told him mum about me. I am more cautious and haven't told my parents yet, mainly because I don't want to get their hopes up. At the movies, I often caught him staring at me instead of the movie. He would also randomly just touch and trace my face This is still so early on and I am kind of worried that after today's lunch - he won't want to see me again. We haven't really made plans after today so I am not sure. I just have this feeling of dread that this will be the last time I see him.
tinktronik Posted January 16, 2011 Posted January 16, 2011 Well, this is certainly moving fast and coming on far too strong for a second date. Why so fast OP?
sb129 Posted January 16, 2011 Posted January 16, 2011 OG! RELAX RELAX RELAX AND STOP WORRYING. WHY wouldn't he want to see you again after such a great date? He told his mother about you, thats positive.
Art_Critic Posted January 16, 2011 Posted January 16, 2011 Relax Relax Relax and stop worrying. Yeah... i agree.. just kick back and enjoy
Ariadne Posted January 16, 2011 Posted January 16, 2011 Oh wow! Now it sounds like the guy is falling in love? I'm sorry I thought this guy was turning back but it seems like he really likes you. Good luck! I really hope you found love!
USMCHokie Posted January 16, 2011 Posted January 16, 2011 That's awesome OG! The only thing I would caution you about is to not let your pace be dictated by his pace...I know a lot of folks, including myself, get really emotionally caught up in a person because the other person is demonstrating very high interest in a relatively short time...so just be careful with that and keep your own pace...just because he's gah gah for you in just two dates doesn't mean that you are obligated to feel the same way...it's a marathon, not a sprint! But have fun on your lunch date!
TheWatcher Posted January 16, 2011 Posted January 16, 2011 Anyway, he is so sweet and affectionate towards me. I was a little worried because he didn't touch me or kiss me on the first date, but he made a move when we were at the movies. He first held my hand, then put an arm around me, and from there we progressed to fully making out. He constantly tells me how stunning I am, how nice I am, how smart etc etc. He said that he can't believe how many stupid and boring people he met from that website but it's all been worth it because he got to meet me. At the movies, I often caught him staring at me instead of the movie. He would also randomly just touch and trace my face I'm glad that you had a nice time but generally speaking, aren't women turned off by such behaviour ? Don't they prefer aloof,cold,distant & mysterious at the off-set of a relationship/dating situation ? Good luck to you !!
ivalm Posted January 16, 2011 Posted January 16, 2011 We had a really nice 7 hour 2nd date last night. He wouldn't let me pay for a anything at all. I am seeing him again in a couple of hours so I hope he will let me pay for lunch at least. Anyway, he is so sweet and affectionate towards me. I was a little worried because he didn't touch me or kiss me on the first date, but he made a move when we were at the movies. He first held my hand, then put an arm around me, and from there we progressed to fully making out. He constantly tells me how stunning I am, how nice I am, how smart etc etc. He said that he can't believe how many stupid and boring people he met from that website but it's all been worth it because he got to meet me. He already told him mum about me. I am more cautious and haven't told my parents yet, mainly because I don't want to get their hopes up. At the movies, I often caught him staring at me instead of the movie. He would also randomly just touch and trace my face This is still so early on and I am kind of worried that after today's lunch - he won't want to see me again. We haven't really made plans after today so I am not sure. I just have this feeling of dread that this will be the last time I see him. Boy likes girl, girl likes boy -- awesomeness all around. I hope your third date is going well! Best of luck OG.
Surrealist Posted January 16, 2011 Posted January 16, 2011 All sounds pretty good to me. Just try to be cool OG. He certainly doesn't appear to be pushing you beyond your own boundaries and it seems very affectionate on his part. Almost reads like a couple of innocent children falling in love with each other.
Mme. Chaucer Posted January 16, 2011 Posted January 16, 2011 One little caution: This is starting off with quite a bang and a lot of romance and intensity. 7 hours is a long 2nd date and you're going out with him again tomorrow. I don't think there's anything wrong with any of it. But, be on guard for your OWN feelings of insecurity when this level of intensity does not keep up. Because it probably won't, even if it's true love. If you can, you might think about ramping down the pace a bit. That way you can have a lot to look forward to through the "getting to know each other" time. I'm happy that you like him and he likes you too.
Star Gazer Posted January 16, 2011 Posted January 16, 2011 One little caution: This is starting off with quite a bang and a lot of romance and intensity. 7 hours is a long 2nd date and you're going out with him again tomorrow. I don't think there's anything wrong with any of it. But, be on guard for your OWN feelings of insecurity when this level of intensity does not keep up. Because it probably won't, even if it's true love. If you can, you might think about ramping down the pace a bit. That way you can have a lot to look forward to through the "getting to know each other" time. I'm happy that you like him and he likes you too. Agreed. OG, please... stop calling yourself a girl, and the guys you date boys. You're 32. Please?
sweetjasmine Posted January 16, 2011 Posted January 16, 2011 But, be on guard for your OWN feelings of insecurity when this level of intensity does not keep up. Because it probably won't, even if it's true love. Yup. And I'm a little concerned, OG, that the only things you listed about him that you like are about how he makes you feel, how he touches you, what he says about you. What else do you like about him as a person aside from the attention and affection that he gives you? I hope you have a wonderful time on your next date. I think you should take it easy, relax, and try to get to know him, who he is, and what he's about. This sounds like a good thing for you.
Star Gazer Posted January 16, 2011 Posted January 16, 2011 And I'm a little concerned, OG, that the only things you listed about him that you like are about how he makes you feel, how he touches you, what he says about you. What else do you like about him as a person aside from the attention and affection that he gives you? This is a common concern addressed in OG's threads. I'm assuming what she likes about him is that he's very attractive. I hope you have a wonderful time on your next date. I think you should take it easy, relax, and try to get to know him, who he is, and what he's about. This sounds like a good thing for you. Same here!!
Star Gazer Posted January 16, 2011 Posted January 16, 2011 I heard a comedian say you’re not a woman until you’ve had kids. She has a Ph.D. and owns real estate. She's not a girl.
Eddie Edirol Posted January 16, 2011 Posted January 16, 2011 She has a Ph.D. and owns real estate. She's not a girl. Anyone can be a bookworm and get a job and buy houses. Doesnt make you wise enough to understand when someone is into you. Man, boy, girl woman, the language doesnt really matter with them in the long run. But Im also concerned that her only description of him is only what he does for her...very telling. OceanGirl, if you enjoy worrying because you get to exercise your emotions, then just say so. If you think he is blowing smoke up your ass and not being genuine with his compliments, thats a valid concern. If he's really into you, the best way to tell is if he asks you things about who you are. You should do the same for him too. Nothing wrong with being cautious, just dont ignore any red flags. Besides the one of him falling for you too fast.
Stung Posted January 16, 2011 Posted January 16, 2011 I'm glad that you had a nice time but generally speaking, aren't women turned off by such behaviour ? Don't they prefer aloof,cold,distant & mysterious at the off-set of a relationship/dating situation ? Good luck to you !! No. A lot of women are swept off their feet by demonstrations of high interest, if they come from a man they find potentially of interest. Another subset of women are drawn to the emotionally unavailable challenge--often these are women with lower self esteem and childhood issues with men, in my experience. But there are no hard and fast rules about which will be attracted to which men, and there is no one set of behaviors all women are drawn to.
northern_sky Posted January 16, 2011 Posted January 16, 2011 the negative nancys are at it again. just let her enjoy herself! Even if she ultimately decides she doesn't like him, it's nice to bask in attention and affection from someone you're attracted to.
Surrealist Posted January 16, 2011 Posted January 16, 2011 I think its really cute myself, sure not holding out major hope of walking down the aisle or anything though stranger things have happened.
Author OceanGirl Posted January 16, 2011 Author Posted January 16, 2011 So I am back.. We had a lunch and then just went to the park and lied on the grass for few hours and made out and stuff We took some pictures of us with a mobile phone and I joked that I will put them up on Facebook and tag him so that all his others girlfriends will see them. He then sat up and said, let's have a semi-serious talk. He basically said that he doesn't multi-date, casually date or have casual sex. He told me that he is not seeing anyone else and asked me if I am (I guess that it sort of means we are exclusive?). He said that he wants a relationship and a long-term one but obviously we will have to see how things go with us. We talked about cheating (he brought it up) and he said that it's the most disgusting thing ever. Anyhow, it went really well and we didn't run out of things to talk about. I will admit that my only concern really is his intelligence. He is not as intelligent as what I am used to and I definitely feel that I am smarter than him. He is an artist (a painter) so he is very creative and has a different type of intelligence to me. This may be a problem later on. Another thing is that we live 85kms apart. We spoke about this and we will only be able to see each other on the weekends (we work different shifts during the week). We made plans to have dinner and see a live band on Sat night and then I am going over to his house on Sunday morning to meet his dog and spend a day with him.. He gave me tons of compliments again. I do believe that he is being sincere at this point in time. He doesn't appear to have a front or a facade or to play any games at all. He texted me just now with "I miss you already" I responded: "Me too. I had great time with you today." He responded: "Well, you are an amazing girl in every way I look forward to another awesome weekend together. Call you tomorrow :)" Me "I will look forward to talking to you :)"
Author OceanGirl Posted January 16, 2011 Author Posted January 16, 2011 BTW he also told me to feel free to text him/call him/facebook him/ e-mail him at any time during the week and not to hold back at all...that any contact from me is more than welcome He just updated his FB status: <his name> is very happy. I "liked" it
welikeincrowds Posted January 16, 2011 Posted January 16, 2011 I will admit that my only concern really is his intelligence. He is not as intelligent as what I am used to and I definitely feel that I am smarter than him. He is an artist (a painter) so he is very creative and has a different type of intelligence to me. This may be a problem later on. How bad is it? It's a careful distinction between accepting differences, and ignoring your own impulses -- the discords, the ones you don't want to feel.
Leigh 87 Posted January 16, 2011 Posted January 16, 2011 He sent u a text on the same day as yuour date, to say he missed you already? Yikes. Lol, but it all sounds very cute and fun.
oaks Posted January 16, 2011 Posted January 16, 2011 He told me that he is not seeing anyone else and asked me if I am (I guess that it sort of means we are exclusive?). Maybe, or maybe you are just dating each other while not seeing anyone else right now. Is it a "relationship" yet or just two people going on some nice dates? The rest of it sounds great. Perhaps faster than I would want things to move for me, but that's me not you. Enjoy it!
Citizen Erased Posted January 16, 2011 Posted January 16, 2011 BTW he also told me to feel free to text him/call him/facebook him/ e-mail him at any time during the week and not to hold back at all...that any contact from me is more than welcome He just updated his FB status: <his name> is very happy. I "liked" it I am happy for you, that things are so positive for you right now. Just stay calm about things, enjoy spending time with him. Not every guy has to be Einstein to keep your interest.
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