UK4ever Posted January 15, 2011 Posted January 15, 2011 So i had a relationship that lasted one year and a half i'm 19 and she is 18. We broke up several times. One day i cheated on her and was the biggest mistake of my life. I confessed to her two months after i cheated and i told her i regret it so bad and i cried (yea i cried so what) . But yea She told me it hurts but everything was going to be alright because it was our bad times. So i felt relieved when she said that. She told me just promise me you will never do it again. Of course i promised her. After two good lovely weeks after i confessed to her we argued for a week straight ( dumb little things SMH). Before the first day we had argued she got walked home by some guy from school because she had no ride and i was at school ( i was told by someone). After a week straight of argueing i told myself i wanted to stop argueing because it was stressing the both of us. That same day she was trying to break up with me but she was crying because she didnt want to hurt me with the break up . also she brought out the day i cheated on her but with anger but I begged not to leave me and she stayed . She said "aww im jk ily" ( i was like wtf) den she said she was just playing she couldn't leave everything behind because we have been through too much with me already. she then said atleast i know you really love me and kept on telling me ily. the next day i stressed her out even though i wasnt trying to so idk what happen there. After that things start going downhill. i will tell her ily but she wouldnt say it back. we then broke up with me a week later because she was thinkin about everything that i had done supposely but this was right after she hanged out with the guy ( i was told)....so she wanted time and space.... and i got really depressed .she said i could still go prom with her and i was like alright ! the next few days i heard she was talking to someone else and that was the guy who walked her home from school. I dont know what i was thinking. i guess the jealousy kicked in but i confronted her. she did a face like o **** how does he know..but she said it was only a friend..... then we later text and she told me she just doesnt feel the same anymore about me and that me cheating got her depressed and didnt know if things will ever be the same. I tried my best to get her back even told her i did a confession to my priest that what i did and told her i only wanted her and only her, she said she will think about us. during the time she was thinking about it i made a mistake and called her becuase i didnt like what i was seeing on her facebook (SMH @ maself) and pretty much didnt turn out well. she told me to move on but with anger. but i stilled texted her and it was like nothing had happened. we were flirting.but then i started talking about the break up with her and it got her mad and told me to move on den but next day it was like nothing had happened we flirted again. then i didnt contact her for a week and a half. i told her ily and i miss you. and didnt get a response...wasnt expecting one either...next few days she got with the guy,,,i was like wtf....but yea umm its been a month since she has been with the guy....she seems very happy with him...oh yeah two months since our break up....also i have her facebook password because i asked for it and she gave it to me...but its like she forgot but she should know i have it because she had asked me if i be getting on it. (this was two days before we broke up.)..........idk if dat means anything becuz she did change her password several times when were goin out im jus tired of over analyzing everything but what do you think is going on? do you think she just doesnt care anymore or is there still a chance?......she said she doesnt trust me anymore...do u guys really believe there is trust issues or is cuz of this guy or both? ......maybe its just me not accepting whats going on.........i felt like i havent tooken full responsiblity of me cheating so i feel like i should call her and tell her....i dont know tho....i feel like im jus going bother her...........i did learn alot from this......they say once a cheater always cheater...naw forget dat....i dont want to go through this anymore...........so much guilt....still feel it now....also pressure into doing things she didnt want to do....smh....i feel disgusted at myself for all this.........maybe she thought dats all i wanted.....also want to apologize to her for dat too.....Live and Learn...what r ya thoughts on this?
TaraMaiden Posted January 15, 2011 Posted January 15, 2011 My thoughts are that you should re-post this again; break up the paragraphs, do NOT use text-speak, and try to punctuate. it's IMPOSSIBLE to read.
500daysofsummer Posted January 15, 2011 Posted January 15, 2011 yeah it is a little tough to read but i read it fine. i'm in the same exact boat as you bro. i cheated on the love of my life and i've been trying for a year and a half to get her back. FORGET all of the people saying once a cheater always a cheater. we know we learned our lesson and won't let it happen again. right? but the good thing is man, she still has feelings for you. and it shows because she still gets angry. trust me bro, if she was over it and moved on she wouldn't even care and she wouldn't show any emotions. you still have hope man. i cheated on my ex, we broke up. she started going out with a guy in a serious relationship. (pictures together, facebook relationship status, all that BS). i eventually deleted my facebook because IT'S JUST FACEBOOK. she even told me that she loved him and she can see herself marrying him.. i called her bluff from the start and it turns out i was right. she broke up with him. it's been a year and a half and she FINALLY forgave me and said she still has strong feelings for me. but you wanna know what my biggest mistake was? right after we broke up and ever since (over a year now) i've been the one begging and pleading for another chance. THAT'S THE WORST THING TO DO. you ruin her physical attraction for you and it pushes her away. trust everyone when they say it. it's the truth son! check out my thread if you wanna: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t260863/
TaraMaiden Posted January 15, 2011 Posted January 15, 2011 yeah it is a little tough to read but i read it fine. Forum Guidelines say it isn't..... Paragraphs and formatting code We ask that community participants separate long posts into paragraphs, leaving a blank line between each block of text similar to the style used in this document. We have found that posters who follow this suggestion not only improve the readability of the post, but also tend to receive a greater number of responses. Most people will find this far too laborious to work through. Just saying.
500daysofsummer Posted January 15, 2011 Posted January 15, 2011 Forum Guidelines say it isn't..... Most people will find this far too laborious to work through. Just saying. whatever back to the topic
Citizen Erased Posted January 15, 2011 Posted January 15, 2011 You screwed up and you're now paying for it. Take it as a lesson to not treat the people you love so horribly just so you can get off. If she wants to come back eventually, she will. You can't force people to do things just because you want them to do it. And for the record, you're the one at fault for her trust issues with you, not the other guy. Remember, the cheating... You don't have to be a cheater just because you did it once. That's bull. But clearly you're capable of it so you need to look at the damage and hurt you caused to her and your own life and learn from it. Your actions changed how she sees you and your relationship, most of the time that's too much damage for a relationship to succeed. It seems she has made her choice.
Author UK4ever Posted January 15, 2011 Author Posted January 15, 2011 New post . More clear. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t261001/
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