miracgirl Posted January 15, 2011 Posted January 15, 2011 Would you be insulted if your girlfriend gave you a bottle of male hygiene soap and said " you know how you said you sweat down there? Well, I thought you might want to try this". And, is it better to say this in bed or out of bed? We don't like to shower together so that's not an option. Thanks!!
TaraMaiden Posted January 15, 2011 Posted January 15, 2011 Make it an option. You don't actually have to 'shower', see..... EDIT: My partner's extremely hygienic and conscious of such things. I never have needed to do any such thing. But we have showered together.......
Author miracgirl Posted January 15, 2011 Author Posted January 15, 2011 Somebody please help!!! Not to be gross, but my bf really smells and it's not from uncleanliness. He is very overweight and sweats a lot and does shower every day but it doesn't help. That's why I bought this special soap but I don't know how to give it to him without insulting him. Any suggestions other than taking a shower together is greatly appreciated. It wouldn't help anyway since I smell it even when he's clothed. He's a really great guy so vie been overlooking it but its really getting to me.
Feelin Frisky Posted January 16, 2011 Posted January 16, 2011 The way you phrased it is not insulting and definitely fair. I'm sure this is a tough thing to try to deal with. I've never had to ask a g/f to wash her stank or have her ask me. But I used to supervise a lot of people in a busy office and there were several persons over that time which it fell upon me to tell that their B.O. was not acceptable. I HATED having to do that. HATED it. The way you're handling it is non-confrontational. Hopefully he will take it to heart without resentment and work at smelling better.
Romance Posted January 16, 2011 Posted January 16, 2011 I'd probably be like "Hey you know how you were saying you had a problem with sweating down there? I picked up this soap for you at the store, apparently it's supposed to help. I'll put it in the shower!"
Disillusioned Posted January 16, 2011 Posted January 16, 2011 Heck, I'd give him a bottle of Creolin and tell him to wash his family jewels with that!
SpanksTheMonkey Posted January 16, 2011 Posted January 16, 2011 Somebody please help!!! Not to be gross, but my bf really smells and it's not from uncleanliness. He is very overweight and sweats a lot and does shower every day but it doesn't help. That's why I bought this special soap but I don't know how to give it to him without insulting him. Any suggestions other than taking a shower together is greatly appreciated. It wouldn't help anyway since I smell it even when he's clothed. He's a really great guy so vie been overlooking it but its really getting to me. Soap alone will not cure his prob no matter how good the soap its a build up of moisture that then leads to bacteria and hence the odor the soaps only going to wash away the current bacteria. He also needs to make sure he dries himself well after showering and uses a medicated powder. I don't think there is anything wrong with you talking to him about it your his gf after all. Im sure he would say something if you started to stink just be as nice as you can when you bring the matter up...
somedude81 Posted January 16, 2011 Posted January 16, 2011 Is he a sensitive guy? If not, I'd just be like, "Babe, you smell down there when you sweat. You need to get it taken care of." Just speak it like it is.
Author miracgirl Posted January 16, 2011 Author Posted January 16, 2011 Thank you to everyone who has posted. You gave me some ideas. I just feel so bad... I mean is there anything more insulting than telling someone they smell???
Feelin Frisky Posted January 16, 2011 Posted January 16, 2011 ...is there anything more insulting than telling someone they smell??? Uh, yeah.
carhill Posted January 16, 2011 Posted January 16, 2011 No I wouldn't be insulted and I'd probably ask you to show me how to properly apply it Oh, outside the bedroom would be my preferred venue and one doesn't need to shower together to lather up
SpanksTheMonkey Posted January 16, 2011 Posted January 16, 2011 Thank you to everyone who has posted. You gave me some ideas. I just feel so bad... I mean is there anything more insulting than telling someone they smell??? Yep not telling them and then letting a total stranger tell them in maybe a less then kind way some people can be rather crewel just something to keep in mind..
fishtaco Posted January 16, 2011 Posted January 16, 2011 I don't know, maybe something like... hey you know, I really like the way this soap smells. How about if you wash with this down there and <insert naughty suggestions>.
Questionis Posted January 16, 2011 Posted January 16, 2011 Guys are really good about taking criticism. You could even go as far to gag when you try to go down on him then the next day appear with the soap and tell him to make sure he uses it on a regular basis. He would probably be okay about it. I don't know why this is...
Nexus One Posted January 16, 2011 Posted January 16, 2011 Would you be insulted if your girlfriend gave you a bottle of male hygiene soap and said " you know how you said you sweat down there? Well, I thought you might want to try this". And, is it better to say this in bed or out of bed? We don't like to shower together so that's not an option. Thanks!! The way you phrase it seems a bit untactful, as if you're a really harsh person. The guy might not be insulted by your remark, but might get the wrong idea of your sensitivity towards him. Perhaps phrasing it somewhat more tactful or bringing it up at a moment where you're kissing his belly would be an opportune moment to make a tactful or even perhaps witty remark.
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