Cuchara2 Posted January 15, 2011 Posted January 15, 2011 (edited) Background info: I was with my ex for 2 years, then she broke up with me. She was my first love, shag etc. I took the break up really badly, chased after her, it failed, then NC'd for around 3 months up until now where I started talking to her again. In the meantime, I've hooked up with 10+ women at clubs, bars etc. and had sex with 4 more. I never had the intentions of getting back with my ex at this point. I also had another girlfriend for a month, she was the most amazing match I have ever found in a person to me, but she was also the most immature person I have ever met in my life. When we broke up, she went and talked to my ex ex (dunno how the system works haha) and got me into heaps of trouble with her (it's what broke the NC oddly enough). She's come back as well, but I said no straight out. So now, let me get to my ex. During the summer, when we broke up (still at school so we get a long holiday), she went back to her home country as she usually does, when our relationship wasn't going to well (I had been a dick and she was acting weird now). I found out from a friend of mine she'd cheated, spazzed out entirely and she broke up with me. I had been looking at her facebook before this and there was this guy, who I semi-knew who was blatantly trying to get with her, even before we broke up. She is the most naive person I know, so she just took it as friendship (or enjoyed the attention). So he was obviously also talking to her about us, probably telling her to leave me. So she did and there he was, being the dick he is, using his experiences of breaking up with his gf recently too looking all emotional and there for her. Anyway, she came back, NC'd her completely, she asked me to talk to her I said no every time. Finally, she went back at christmas and had sex with the guy. Now, when I found this out, it really, REALLY pissed me off. Not because she had sex with someone, but because she did it with him. It couldn't have been anyone else, it had to be him. So anyway, I found out this, I told her what I thought a couple of days later, which was that I personally thought that she was being a complete and utter tool - he's going to see her 3 months a year absolute tops, as if he's going to wait around for her, it was a pisstake that she had to do it with him and no one else and then I told her how he had been trying to get in there from the start. My ex never showed any type of attraction any more, be it love or missing me, but I knew she did as I could see it. She'd never admit it but there were signs. She denied all of these things but continued to talk to me about them, showing she was now sceptical about the guy. I NC again, having nothing to say to her, then a couple of days after - that would be yesterday, she comes out with this. "I've been thinking a lot recently and I've decided I'm really sorry for the breakup and I'd like to have another try at it". I said that I really wasn't expecting that and I'd need some time to think about it, but it wouldn't be too long. On one hand I still really love her, I miss her sometimes and she was really great, but on the other hand, do second chances ever really work? Am I just a fall back plan B for her failed LDR's? What will happen when she goes and sees him again? Sure it kind of pisses me off that she went off and had sex with someone else then came back, but who am I to judge? Even though I never thought she'd come back... Off topic - 100 posts Edited January 15, 2011 by Cuchara2
xpaperxcutx Posted January 15, 2011 Posted January 15, 2011 H-ll No. Exes are exes for a reason. If you're only getting back with her for the sex, you're better off fracking the hot girls at the clubs. Aren't you even curious why the sudden change of heart after leaving you?
Author Cuchara2 Posted January 15, 2011 Author Posted January 15, 2011 Yeah of course I am.. I'm not sure if it's because no one else from my school will ask her out (one of my best friends did, I gave him a black eye, everyone knew who it was from but nothing was said. Everyone else is scared now - I go to the biggest wimp school ever). Or maybe, seeing as I started talking to her she decided it was time to tell me.. I'm just confused =/.
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