epiclove Posted January 15, 2011 Posted January 15, 2011 Curious, for the last couple of weeks we have been talking a bit more (by more, I mean we each are able to send messages with the other responding in a decent time). Today we were suppose to go hiking but her family decided to go on a last minute trip to Reno so we postponed our hangout until next Friday. When she told me about the change of plans, I got kinda annoyed because a few months earlier she had flaked on me completely. She noticed that I was annoyed and told me to not take it personal, and that she was sorry and DOES want to see me. I apologized and told her that everything was fine. She texts me later on, and suggest to her that we do something a bit more that she would be into, like inline skating around town. She seemed excited by that and that is currently on the agenda for next Friday. I still like her....A LOT and I am not sure if this is just a 'friend' thing, or that she may be somewhat interested in me again. A few months back I told her I still have feelings for her, and she sent me a message telling me that 'whatever happens, happens'. Ladies what do you think?
0hpenelope Posted January 15, 2011 Posted January 15, 2011 Curious, for the last couple of weeks we have been talking a bit more (by more, I mean we each are able to send messages with the other responding in a decent time). Today we were suppose to go hiking but her family decided to go on a last minute trip to Reno so we postponed our hangout until next Friday. When she told me about the change of plans, I got kinda annoyed because a few months earlier she had flaked on me completely. She noticed that I was annoyed and told me to not take it personal, and that she was sorry and DOES want to see me. I apologized and told her that everything was fine. She texts me later on, and suggest to her that we do something a bit more that she would be into, like inline skating around town. She seemed excited by that and that is currently on the agenda for next Friday. I still like her....A LOT and I am not sure if this is just a 'friend' thing, or that she may be somewhat interested in me again. A few months back I told her I still have feelings for her, and she sent me a message telling me that 'whatever happens, happens'. Ladies what do you think? You still have intense feelings for her. That's worrisome for you. Because you might start putting the moves on her w/o thinking to, then her responses can just lead you on. A lot of LS members say that exes who want you back will come back, banging on your door or ringing your phone off the hook to let you know. It brings up exaggerated imagery, but the point is, an ex who wants to try again will let you know. No hints, no mind games; NC doesn't even deter them. If you proceed like this with her, you should ask her point blank if she wants to get back together. That way, you can cut your losses, grieve as you do, and then move on faster knowing that you at least tried. The best you can do when you're interacting with her is to stay cool. Maintain composure. Don't betray your excitement at being with her again, but do let her know you appreciate your time with her. It's just too difficult to play hooky like that. You're supposed to be moving on, remember? Not moving on in just the sense of you having a new girlfriend at this time, no. "Moving on" as in whatever she does, whenever she pops up in your life, her being there won't and doesn't faze you. With all of that said, what do I think? I think that hanging out with someone you still have strong feelings for is a bad idea. Different strokes for different folks, so I wish you the best next Friday.
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