Denillad Posted January 15, 2011 Posted January 15, 2011 My ex and i were together for 4 1/2 year and we broke up after a nasty fight in dec of 2008. We remained in contact but never discussed the break up getting back together but we had sex a few times. I always thought we would get back together though i really didnt push it. About nine months later, he started to come around more n realized how much i still was in love with him but i said he was with someone else n he doesnt know what the future holds for us but not now. I became depressed and tried so hard to get through to him with no avail. He would come arpund to have sex n i allowed it cause it was my only connection with him. He would get jealous when started to see other people, he made me feel like i was wrong when at that was living with his gf. Ive struggled with this till now. I began dating n old friend from high school but i still thought about my ex every day. My new bf read some sexting communication between my ex n I. It tore him apart n now i need to make some changes in my life. He wants me to change my number, move to his state n never talk to my ex again. I think thats the best thing but i havent been able to get the thoughs of my ex out of my head and im afraid i'll never get over the loss of that relationship. I will meet with ex tomorrow to ask all the questions on my mind with hopes of getting some closure. He said I meant the world to but how could just walk away n break my heary? I want to ask things like, does feel he made the best choice, would he have done anything differently, what does he feel now for me, is he in love, etc. Any thoughts?
Author Denillad Posted January 15, 2011 Author Posted January 15, 2011 I would love any advice. Do try have that last tomorrow or just change my number and leave town for good? Please any thought?
D78 Posted January 15, 2011 Posted January 15, 2011 You've been broken up for more than 2 years, but you haven't been able to get over your ex because you still have sex with him. Now, you have another boyfriend who you might lose because you're still too hung up on your ex. Your ex hasn't tried to get back together with you, so it's safe to assume he is not interested in a relationship with you right now. What's the point in meeting with him to find answers? Are you trying to mess things up between you and your new boyfriend? I guess I don't understand why you want to keep your ex in your life the way you are. He has been stringing you along for 2 years. I think you know what you should do.
500daysofsummer Posted January 15, 2011 Posted January 15, 2011 i agree with D78, you have to ask what it is that you want RIGHT NOW. if that's getting back with your ex then you probably should break off your current bf. if you really like your current bf but still are second-guessing the past then you need to work on not letting your past interfere with your current situation. it will just get messy.
Author Denillad Posted January 15, 2011 Author Posted January 15, 2011 Thank you for the advice. I will just try to walk away from this as I have done before but i wont look back. Though it really hurts.
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