SmileFace Posted January 15, 2011 Posted January 15, 2011 $#%# !!!! Or boyfriend material for that matter. I see this phrase thrown around all the time . I don't see it as something that can have a standard meaning. What does it mean to you ? What makes someone boy/girl friend material to you?:-)
creighton0123 Posted January 15, 2011 Posted January 15, 2011 A catchy way to say "There's potential for a monogamous, long term emotional and sexual relationship with that person."
Eeyore79 Posted January 15, 2011 Posted January 15, 2011 If someone is not bf/gf material, it basically means that for whatever reason you couldn't see yourself being with them in the long term. I've dated a few guys who I didn't see any long term potential with; they were fun to hang out with for a while, but they drank too heavily, or were unemployed, or had a kid, or weren't reliable enough, etc. What usually happens is that I date a guy thinking he might be boyfriend material, but after a couple of months I find out he's not, so I dump him. In my experience, I'd say about one in five guys is boyfriend material.
Author SmileFace Posted January 15, 2011 Author Posted January 15, 2011 Yeah I get what the phrase may mean. Thank you for the explanation - I appreciate it. But I am more asking what make someone boy/girl friend material to you.
Eeyore79 Posted January 16, 2011 Posted January 16, 2011 If a guy is boyfriend material to me, then he usually meets the following criteria: *Attractive *Fit and healthy *Decent person *Interesting and fun to be with *Things in common with me *Good in bed *Well educated *Decent job *No kids Does that answer your question?
Questionis Posted January 16, 2011 Posted January 16, 2011 _ someone that I find attractive _kind _interesting _likes same music as me _no kids( i feel bad about this but kids need attention, so a good father will not have much left over for me; and a bad father, I don't want to go out with!) _reciprocates my efforts( no point if they tick all the boxes but don't/can't won't love you back)
Nexus One Posted January 16, 2011 Posted January 16, 2011 (edited) $#%# !!!! Or boyfriend material for that matter. I see this phrase thrown around all the time . I don't see it as something that can have a standard meaning. What does it mean to you ? What makes someone boy/girl friend material to you?:-) It's a hierarchical statement. Some people just consider some other people as friends, or sex buddies, or flings. Boy- or girlfriend material are people that stand higher in the hierarchy than the previously mentioned "labels". Feeling is what (mostly) dictates that hierarchy. Edited January 16, 2011 by Nexus One
Kamille Posted January 16, 2011 Posted January 16, 2011 (edited) I've used the sentence : "He's told you himself he's not boyfriend material" on a few occasions. The general scenario when I use it goes something like this. First, LSer posts a thread with: "Hooked up with this cute guy!" in which they will report that after the hook up the guy said he "wasn't looking for anything serious at the moment" for what could be a number of reasons (generally: because he just broke up with someone). The next thread of this poster will go something like: "Is he into me?", a thread which contains a play by play of the level of contacts, generally a report of its insufficient nature. Then will follow a series of threads where the general theme will be "Why won't he commit? How can I get him to commit?" In those cases, I like to point out to those posters that the guy isn't boyfriend material, ie, he isn't acting like someone who's interested in developing a long term relationship. What's more, his actions are consistent with his words. Someone who is boyfriend material, in my experience, simply desires a long term relationship and is ready to act accordingly. So, no, for me it isn't a set lists of qualities, rather a stage in life, a state of mind. Edited January 16, 2011 by Kamille
cdubs32 Posted January 16, 2011 Posted January 16, 2011 $#%# !!!! Or boyfriend material for that matter. I see this phrase thrown around all the time . I don't see it as something that can have a standard meaning. What does it mean to you ? What makes someone boy/girl friend material to you?:-) A girl that is someone with good qualities that would make her a good candidate for a longterm relationship with the potential for marriage. So a girl I consider GF material is one I trust, can take care of herself, and that I'd have no problem introducing to my family. Girls, to me, that are NOT gf material are girls who get drunk at the bar every weekend, sleep with random dudes, always having money trouble from spending beyond their means, spoiled daddy's princesses. I saw jersey shore for the first time the other day...I can tell you none of those girls are GF material in my book.
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