Vickstar Posted January 14, 2011 Posted January 14, 2011 3 months ago when my ex broke up with me, well obviously i was devasted and couldnt stop crying and crying. After a while i started to feel a little better and thought that would be the last of my tears until a few days ago i found out he is seeing a girl from his work. Im sick of crying and i was wondering if its best to just let it all out or to try and control your emotions and make yourself stronger, will crying more delay the healing process?
Fern Posted January 14, 2011 Posted January 14, 2011 The crying helps! Get it out of you. I always found that I felt better after a good cry. It's part of the process. You'll eventually get to the stage where you don't care enough to cry but you need to experience the bad parts first. Good luck!
GreenPolicy Posted January 14, 2011 Posted January 14, 2011 I find that crying helps sometimes. You are literally expelling the grief.
radrluv72 Posted January 14, 2011 Posted January 14, 2011 Broken relationships can be like deaths, and mourning them is just a natural part of the healing process. The first week after my ex dumped me, I cried every day for one week straight, even though we were still in communication with eachother. I finally implemented NC 15 days ago, and of course, the tears started all over again, but the way I felt after I cried was different the second time around...like I was finally getting the rest of my hurt out. I'm happy to say that now I'm transitioning, realizing that even though I was devastated by how my ex broke up with me, that there is life afterwards, and it does go on. I'm feeling my joy of life again, and while I'm cautionary to get involved with someone again, I'm slowly getting back out there. It may not feel like it now, but it will happen...it just doesn't happen at the same pace for every person. Time does heal. Just don't feel like you have to rush yourself, even if your friends are telling you, "just don't think about it"...you'll get there when you're ready.
Duckduckgoose Posted January 14, 2011 Posted January 14, 2011 I am still crying on and off about my stbxH leaving me and the divorce process. Just count your good days and good moments. You will have bad days too (I had one yesterday and it sucked). Eventually your good days will outnumber the bad days, and you will have moved on
spiderowl Posted January 15, 2011 Posted January 15, 2011 I'm sure that crying helps to relieve stress and it feels like it provides a natural tranquiliser for a few house afterwards. You will have these turmoils every so often as you hear things about your ex or bump into him and it will bring back the sad feelings, but eventually this will fade. I think at some level the unconscious mind has to come to terms with various things and it does when something is disturbed, but it's a big like a dog settling down to sleep - it shuffles about and keeps turning around until suddenly it finds a restful place. I've been where you are now and I know that it happens. One day you'll realise that their power over you has gone and you'll wonder why it was ever there in the first place.
dng Posted January 15, 2011 Posted January 15, 2011 Let it all out. Enjoy it for what it is. There's a nice high towards the end. Soldier on!
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