improvaments Posted January 14, 2011 Posted January 14, 2011 First of all I wanna say hi to all the member of this community, I lurked around a bit and this forum seems great... ok let's started out... Maybe my Q is too vague btw, I got difficult to met girls, I'm not timid but I'm not feeling confident about it, while I'm pretty good at sex (compared to my girl approch skill). I think my problem is lack of confidence because basically, I don't know what to do, what do say, what attitude is right etc... while watching porn make me feel good when I'm in the bed with a girl because I know vaguely what to do... Well, maybe one other thing that refrain me is due to 10 years ago facts; when I went to school I got no money and terrible parents education. With terrible parents education I mean they didn't help me to grow up and adapt to the world, they simply thought the world was and will be like they think to be. So I went to school with terrible clothes and generally I was a bad-looking guy. Many boys laughed at me for 2 years and told me so often that I'm a bad-looking guy. I think these episode ruined my confidence with girls because I still believe I'm a bad-looking boy which actually (objectively) I'm not. Of course I'm not the top but def I'm not at the bottom... Obv I grow up, my parents don't influence me anymore and things changed, but that thought still remains General advices? Tips? Books? ty
creighton0123 Posted January 15, 2011 Posted January 15, 2011 No books, persay. Just recognize that you can approach women with confidence knowing full well that the worst thing that will happen is they will say no. If they say no by turning around and walking away without saying anything, that's really not the kind of woman you want to be dating. Also, try to meet women who share common interests. Personal hygiene and clean appearance is a must. Be clean shaven, smell good, and wear nicer clothes (nice clothes don't have to be expensive clothes). As for the rest... You may want to invest in a library card. I don't mean this to be insulting, but if you speak like you write, you may find it difficult to communicate with women. For example, see what I've done to your post: "Hello, everyone. While I am new to this forum, I wanted to introduce myself. You all seem amazing and I wanted to get your feedback on a problem I am having. While my question may be very vague, I will try to be clear. I have difficulty meeting women and feel that, although I'm not timid, I'm lacking confidence. Although I don't believe I have a problem with sex, having never received any complaints, I almost always have problems approaching women in social settings. I find that I don't know what to do, what do say, and what attitude I should have. I believe the cause of this stems from my childhood, having been raised by undereducated parents without much money or resources. I was often made fun of by classmates because we couldn't afford decent clothing. I feel my parents didn't teach me how to step into the world. I believe these experiences destroyed my self-confidence. While I am currently living independent of my parents, these negative experiences still haunt me. Do any of you have advice, suggestions, or recommendations for articles or literature that may help? Thank you in advance." If you can teach yourself to speak in an effective, clear, confident, and correct manner, you'll find women are much more inviting. Best of luck :-)
Author improvaments Posted January 15, 2011 Author Posted January 15, 2011 ty for the tips... and thanks for reviewing my post ah, english is not my language...
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