tinktronik Posted January 15, 2011 Posted January 15, 2011 people who don't like oral sex tend to be uptight Seriously! How can anyone not like oral?
johan Posted January 15, 2011 Posted January 15, 2011 Seriously! How can anyone not like oral? Nope. I don't like it. I dare you to try to get me to enjoy it.
pookster72 Posted January 15, 2011 Posted January 15, 2011 i would be put off by a guy i didnt know that well saying that, even if i had every intention of keeping myself shaved and clean. maybe just hint to her that you like going down on women. if she has any intention of hooking up with you im sure she'll keep herself presentable. if it was a boyfriend or someone i knew well i wouldn't care, and would expect we'd be open about stuff like that.
tinktronik Posted January 15, 2011 Posted January 15, 2011 Nope. I don't like it. I dare you to try to get me to enjoy it. I am rendered speechless.
Art_Critic Posted January 15, 2011 Posted January 15, 2011 Why not ask her to join you in the shower? Goog idea.. and while showering together just hand her a razor and ask her to shave.. oh.. and don't forget to have her shave you too...
Art_Critic Posted January 15, 2011 Posted January 15, 2011 Hey, if she's up for the kiss after, any bush is fine with me A republican at heart
carhill Posted January 15, 2011 Posted January 15, 2011 After all, my career did start in oil services
Author theizz Posted January 15, 2011 Author Posted January 15, 2011 if a man that i had just met asked me to shower and shave, i would die of embarassment and wouldnt go through with hooking up with him...are you shaved? Men can smell too, you know..why don't you suggest having a shower together? It's normal for women to have a "scent" down there, but anything "fishy" is an infection and needs to be addressed to a doctor! Yeah I'm shaved. I always shower before going on a date as well. I'm asking because I've hooked up with girls that don't shave and that kind of kills the whole oral sex thing for me. Kind of sucks.
Author theizz Posted January 15, 2011 Author Posted January 15, 2011 I would be offended by such a request. Just as I would be a offended by a man who insisted on keeping a flannel by the bed to "clean up". Doesn't matter how serious the relationship, it's just wrong. How is it wrong to ask a girl to have a certain level of hygiene? I would give her the courtesy of being clean and groomed.
Author theizz Posted January 15, 2011 Author Posted January 15, 2011 I don't think I would mind if a man I was fooling around with asked me to take a shower with him as part of the foreplay process. But to stipulate how I shave my girly parts would get a guy left with his cock in his hand. I shave how I want to shave, not how anyone else wants me to. Point taken, but personally I'd prefer to have my cock in my hand than go down on a girl that doesn't shave. Don't need a gross pile of hair in my mouth.
Author theizz Posted January 15, 2011 Author Posted January 15, 2011 Why not ask her to join you in the shower? I am pretty sure that will solve the hygeine part, but if it is casual I don't think shaving is your business. Key word casual. Makes sense.
Author theizz Posted January 15, 2011 Author Posted January 15, 2011 Holy geezus..this thread caught my eye and I just had to ask...do you have any idea how shaving yourself bald down there feels? LOL..talk about irritation. Yea, I would not ask a girl on the first date..hey can you go shower and shave yourself first..talk about kill the mood! I can agree on the idea of a shower or bath together as part of the act..that is more tactful. Yes I know how it feels. I'm always shaved, and its only irritated the first time. I don't want to kill the mood. Maybe I should wait to bring it up until after a few dates?
Author theizz Posted January 15, 2011 Author Posted January 15, 2011 Or it could be they know there are guys running around out there that are going to ask them to shower and shave if they aren't fresh as a daisy. Geesh. If they showered and shaved they wouldn't have to worry about it though.
bac Posted January 15, 2011 Posted January 15, 2011 How is it wrong to ask a girl to have a certain level of hygiene? I would give her the courtesy of being clean and groomed. It is wrong to ask her because she should do it herself. If she does it herself, it means that she has good common sense and experience in sex. If you ask her to do the things, it means that she has either no common sense or no expeience in sex. That thought might hurt her feelings and turn her off. IMO, if people do not understand the things independently, they are hopeless for being clean anyway. Some people can not just figure out that being clean and groomed is important for sex. In my experience, asking them to clean/groom their genitalia does not work out well anyway. Those men who I had to ask to clean/groom their genitalia never were able to do it right. For example, i asked a few guys to clean their p...s because of smell. They would go to bathroom and they would come back with the unpleasant smell anyway. In other words, after that, the mood is dead and the penis is still dirty.
Stung Posted January 15, 2011 Posted January 15, 2011 Yes I know how it feels. I'm always shaved, and its only irritated the first time. I don't want to kill the mood. Maybe I should wait to bring it up until after a few dates? Your skin is not everybody's skin. There are plenty of women who have very sensitive skin and shaving that area can cause some issues, just FYI.
Els Posted January 15, 2011 Posted January 15, 2011 I don't do casual sex but I liked keeping a warm, damp washcloth by the bed for 'cleanup' and made it a part of the process. The women I've been with, including my exW, were pretty tidy about their parts but I was always willing and able to go the extra mile to put a loving touch on them before treating them to some around the world. Cooler is take a shower with her and wash her. Very sensual. I wouldn't ask her to shave as that is personal preference. Some women don't like to. As mentioned, if you can go down on a woman, you can talk with a woman about going down on her and everything related to that. It's perfectly natural and healthy. Good luck Great advice.
anne1707 Posted January 15, 2011 Posted January 15, 2011 How is it wrong to ask a girl to have a certain level of hygiene? I would give her the courtesy of being clean and groomed. Because by issuing such a "request", it assumes a woman is not capable of maintaining hygiene standards herself. I also find Carhill's damp cloth idea equally insulting on the same basis.
Leigh 87 Posted January 15, 2011 Posted January 15, 2011 Well, a lot of women are gross down there and guys have ever right to not want to go down on them - if a guy is in love with a women who smells bad down there, the guy SHOULD tell her that he cannot enjoy going down on her, because of the oudour; it is how it is. I am all for self improvement. WHY should a guy FORCE himself to go down on a girl, if it is bloody horrible? In an open and healthy relationship, both parties should be able to communicate their concernes - which includes difficult things, such as telling some one that their hygiene in their private regions are not acceptable, but that you still love them and will ove going down on them once it smells better. A lot of girls do not smell good down there, which could be for many reasons: - they tend to not explore down there; the type who do not masturbate and have much of an understanding of their own anatomy - they do try to wash their whole bodies with soap and are generally hygienic, yet they fail to actually wash their vaginas properley. - they have a bad diet with loads of unatural foods and their bodies do not function well - they have good genes are are hot without having to have a great diet, they get plenty of guys so may not try as hard to keep clean Who knows what the reason, but a lot of women are apparently not very good smelling down there, lol. Most guys I have asked have told me that they have had at least ONCE bad experience of a smelly vagina or two, lol! Personally? A fairly clean diet, and using a mild, natural soap ( not the typical one with 23q94802345730 ingredients in it), to wash the vagina ( without washing upthe actual vagina, just the outsides) is imperative. Given this is just a hook up, the guy does not really have a right to dictate that the women go as far as to have a shower, however, this could proove a problem: he tends to like going down when he hooks up. I suppose that even though u r not ina relationship, there is nothing wrong about being honest about his preferences; he could say " I love giving oral, but prefer it after a shower, because I have had some bad experiences in the past, and after a shower it always tastes great!"
jane100 Posted January 15, 2011 Posted January 15, 2011 The guys who write these posts have been watching too much porn and have no central axis for reality anymore about what real sex is actually about, or that women are actually real people with real bodies and real feelings.
northern_sky Posted January 15, 2011 Posted January 15, 2011 Who knows what the reason, but a lot of women are apparently not very good smelling down there, lol. Most guys I have asked have told me that they have had at least ONCE bad experience of a smelly vagina or two, lol! You've asked guys this? Are you conducting a poll on smelly vaginas? Based on your threads you don't sound very experience sexually, Leigh. I don't think you have much idea what you're talking about.
Surrealist Posted January 15, 2011 Posted January 15, 2011 You've asked guys this? Are you conducting a poll on smelly vaginas? Based on your threads you don't sound very experience sexually, Leigh. I don't think you have much idea what you're talking about. As a guy myself, the last time I checked, I would much prefer a woman who was aware of her own body and less sexually experienced, than a woman who was heavily sexually experienced and wasn't mindful of her hygiene down there.
northern_sky Posted January 15, 2011 Posted January 15, 2011 As a guy myself, the last time I checked, I would much prefer a woman who was aware of her own body and less sexually experienced, than a woman who was heavily sexually experienced and wasn't mindful of her hygiene down there. what relation does this have to what I wrote?
Surrealist Posted January 15, 2011 Posted January 15, 2011 what relation does this have to what I wrote? Well, we are talking about 'smelly vaginas', 'sexual experience' and 'hygiene'. Leigh has mentioned quite generously about how it is preferable to be hygienic and how to easily do that. Leigh's mention of her hygienic practise really has no bearing on her sexual experience, but regardless, what I am saying against your post is that I would prefer someone with less sexual experience, as you think it relates to the topic, with a priority for hygiene, than someone who may have loads more sexual experience but doesn't attend to their vaginal hygiene.
anne1707 Posted January 15, 2011 Posted January 15, 2011 Well, we are talking about 'smelly vaginas', 'sexual experience' and 'hygiene'. Leigh has mentioned quite generously about how it is preferable to be hygienic and how to easily do that. Leigh's mention of her hygienic practise really has no bearing on her sexual experience, but regardless, what I am saying against your post is that I would prefer someone with less sexual experience, as you think it relates to the topic, with a priority for hygiene, than someone who may have loads more sexual experience but doesn't attend to their vaginal hygiene. I think what Sky was meaning is that as Leigh is sexually inexeperienced, she cannot assume that the few men she has known sexually are typical of all men. I am however quite sure Sky was not equating experience levels to hygiene levels.
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