theizz Posted January 14, 2011 Posted January 14, 2011 So I just realized last night durring a casual hook up that in terms of sex I'm mainly just interested in giving cunilingus and analingus to girls, and don't really have much of a desire to get myself off. One thing though is a girl has to be shaved smooth down there and showered. I'm going on a date with a girl next week and I'm wondering if it's ok to just ask her before we start messing around if she's shaved. If needed, is it ok for me to ask her to shave and shower before we start getting into it?
sally4sara Posted January 14, 2011 Posted January 14, 2011 If you are not comfortable enough or at ease enough with someone to make your preferences known - you don't know them well enough to be having any kind of sex with them.
Emilia Posted January 14, 2011 Posted January 14, 2011 have you heard of 'scratch and sniff'? it's what boys do before they go down on a girl they don't know well to check her hygiene. they touch her, pretend they are scratching their nose while sniffing their fingers.
Author theizz Posted January 14, 2011 Author Posted January 14, 2011 have you heard of 'scratch and sniff'? it's what boys do before they go down on a girl they don't know well to check her hygiene. they touch her, pretend they are scratching their nose while sniffing their fingers. lol. No I haven't heard of that. Good idea to prevent a bad situation but then is is cool to ask her to go take a shower and or shave?
carhill Posted January 14, 2011 Posted January 14, 2011 I don't do casual sex but I liked keeping a warm, damp washcloth by the bed for 'cleanup' and made it a part of the process. The women I've been with, including my exW, were pretty tidy about their parts but I was always willing and able to go the extra mile to put a loving touch on them before treating them to some around the world. is cool to ask her to go take a shower and or shave? Cooler is take a shower with her and wash her. Very sensual. I wouldn't ask her to shave as that is personal preference. Some women don't like to. As mentioned, if you can go down on a woman, you can talk with a woman about going down on her and everything related to that. It's perfectly natural and healthy. Good luck
Author theizz Posted January 14, 2011 Author Posted January 14, 2011 If you are not comfortable enough or at ease enough with someone to make your preferences known - you don't know them well enough to be having any kind of sex with them. I always felt much more comfortable making out with a girl than talking about it, at least at first. Is that wrong? Should I be able to talk about sexual preferences with a girl before getting intimate?
sally4sara Posted January 14, 2011 Posted January 14, 2011 I always felt much more comfortable making out with a girl than talking about it, at least at first. Is that wrong? Should I be able to talk about sexual preferences with a girl before getting intimate? Yes you should be able to talk about physically intimate acts before engaging in the physically intimate acts. We're people, not rutting dogs. Rutting dogs bring puppies that no one wants. People acting like rutting dogs end up having babies with people they can't even talk to.
Author theizz Posted January 14, 2011 Author Posted January 14, 2011 Yes you should be able to talk about physically intimate acts before engaging in the physically intimate acts. We're people, not rutting dogs. Rutting dogs bring puppies that no one wants. People acting like rutting dogs end up having babies with people they can't even talk to. Those are 2 differnt issues. I see you point about talking, but that never stopped me from being safe. 29, no kids yet, no stds.
ames Posted January 14, 2011 Posted January 14, 2011 if a man that i had just met asked me to shower and shave, i would die of embarassment and wouldnt go through with hooking up with him...are you shaved? Men can smell too, you know..why don't you suggest having a shower together? It's normal for women to have a "scent" down there, but anything "fishy" is an infection and needs to be addressed to a doctor!
SarcasticBlonde Posted January 14, 2011 Posted January 14, 2011 So I just realized last night durring a casual hook up that in terms of sex I'm mainly just interested in giving cunilingus and analingus to girls, and don't really have much of a desire to get myself off. One thing though is a girl has to be shaved smooth down there and showered. I'm going on a date with a girl next week and I'm wondering if it's ok to just ask her before we start messing around if she's shaved. If needed, is it ok for me to ask her to shave and shower before we start getting into it? How tacky and revolting. Unless you are here boyfriend or husband I suggest you don't say that to any woman.
anne1707 Posted January 14, 2011 Posted January 14, 2011 I would be offended by such a request. Just as I would be a offended by a man who insisted on keeping a flannel by the bed to "clean up". Doesn't matter how serious the relationship, it's just wrong.
tinktronik Posted January 14, 2011 Posted January 14, 2011 I don't think I would mind if a man I was fooling around with asked me to take a shower with him as part of the foreplay process. But to stipulate how I shave my girly parts would get a guy left with his cock in his hand. I shave how I want to shave, not how anyone else wants me to.
zengirl Posted January 14, 2011 Posted January 14, 2011 So I just realized last night durring a casual hook up that in terms of sex I'm mainly just interested in giving cunilingus and analingus to girls, and don't really have much of a desire to get myself off. One thing though is a girl has to be shaved smooth down there and showered. I'm going on a date with a girl next week and I'm wondering if it's ok to just ask her before we start messing around if she's shaved. If needed, is it ok for me to ask her to shave and shower before we start getting into it? I don't do casual, so don't know how those girls roll, really, but I cannot imagine this going over well.
bac Posted January 14, 2011 Posted January 14, 2011 If you ask her just before sex, you might turn her off. She would think that she is not good/clean enough and some other things like that. Perhaps, you can talk about it anytime when you feel that time is right. Give her a hint but do not be direct and personal. Just ask her what is her opinion on shaving and showering males and females. Then go with flow. Let her know that you would like to go down on girls and that you prefer them to be clean. Do not be personal but talk about it as a general idea. You do not want her to think that you find her p...y smelly and disgusting. But, if you are not interested in the girl much, you can say and do whatever you want.
SmileFace Posted January 14, 2011 Posted January 14, 2011 Why not ask her to join you in the shower? I am pretty sure that will solve the hygeine part, but if it is casual I don't think shaving is your business. Key word casual.
ConflictedGuy27 Posted January 14, 2011 Posted January 14, 2011 I don't think I would mind if a man I was fooling around with asked me to take a shower with him as part of the foreplay process. But to stipulate how I shave my girly parts would get a guy left with his cock in his hand. I shave how I want to shave, not how anyone else wants me to. this. obviously. re: the shaving thing... that's a bit trickier, especially if it's a casual thing. girl friend, okay. wife, okay. hookup, meh... I don't think you have the right. good luck.
alphamale Posted January 14, 2011 Posted January 14, 2011 If needed, is it ok for me to ask her to shave and shower before we start getting into it? yea thats fine but you better be prepared to spend the nite alone
flowergirl77 Posted January 14, 2011 Posted January 14, 2011 Holy geezus..this thread caught my eye and I just had to ask...do you have any idea how shaving yourself bald down there feels? LOL..talk about irritation. Yea, I would not ask a girl on the first date..hey can you go shower and shave yourself first..talk about kill the mood! I can agree on the idea of a shower or bath together as part of the act..that is more tactful.
SarcasticBlonde Posted January 14, 2011 Posted January 14, 2011 yea thats fine but you better be prepared to spend the nite alone haha...too funny
Banker Chick Posted January 15, 2011 Posted January 15, 2011 And guys wonder why some women don't feel comfortable receiving oral sex
alphamale Posted January 15, 2011 Posted January 15, 2011 And guys wonder why some women don't feel comfortable receiving oral sex people who don't like oral sex tend to be uptight
Banker Chick Posted January 15, 2011 Posted January 15, 2011 people who don't like oral sex tend to be uptight Or it could be they know there are guys running around out there that are going to ask them to shower and shave if they aren't fresh as a daisy. Geesh.
carhill Posted January 15, 2011 Posted January 15, 2011 Hey, if she's up for the kiss after, any bush is fine with me
waynebrady Posted January 15, 2011 Posted January 15, 2011 Pretty much all women hate going down on a man and think it's absolutley repulsive and gross... Yet they are gonna take offence just by the man asking them to take a shower before going down on her?
SarcasticBlonde Posted January 15, 2011 Posted January 15, 2011 Pretty much all women hate going down on a man and think it's absolutley repulsive and gross... Yet they are gonna take offence just by the man asking them to take a shower before going down on her? Where do you get your info? Do you knock on doors and take a poll? No not all women hate giving oral. I enjoy it and I get off when my boyfriend enjoys it.
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