Akumark Posted January 14, 2011 Posted January 14, 2011 I have already become a better person with the help of LS, YOUR HELP, and it's growing up everyday as I all read your stories, good or bad. Everything must be falling into place I guess, I met a wonderful girl last night, we had so much fun chating.I was surprised to be interested by her because I was still thinking a lot about M, my previous FWB. I was even planning to break NC when I felt ok about myself to ask her if she would like to date and see where it could go, but I was still unsure... Anyways the new girl J and I really had a sweet night with common friends, after we went out I drove her home, asked if she wanted someone just to sleep near her tonight because we both felt really alone living by ourselves, she said YEAH, BUT JUST TO SLEEP, lol. We talked a little again inside and went to bed, she jumped on me and start kissing as soon we were lying, I was trying to stop her (not very convincing, ok) and so we didn't really just sleep...amazing night and crazy morning! I really like that person and who know where it will go, but anyways the point is that I started healing, succeed in keeping NC, started to work on myself (even if I was feeling like **** most of the time I was awake I was still learning a lot everyday) and I met a girl who made my coping so much easier today that I don't plan to break NC now. And all this without having to drink once since the 15 december 2009!
Rose T Posted January 14, 2011 Posted January 14, 2011 I think that healing the heart is a lot like healing a flesh wound - once you're in the final stages it suddenly comes together very quickly, almost as if the last phase accelerates. The human brain is amazing in its capacity for healing and hope - I was talking to a friend about this last night. He looks back with fondness on a tricky post breakup period of his as a time of tremendous growth and realisation that you have lots of potential and a blank canvas ahead.
abust1 Posted January 14, 2011 Posted January 14, 2011 I think that healing the heart is a lot like healing a flesh wound - once you're in the final stages it suddenly comes together very quickly, almost as if the last phase accelerates. The human brain is amazing in its capacity for healing and hope - I was talking to a friend about this last night. He looks back with fondness on a tricky post breakup period of his as a time of tremendous growth and realisation that you have lots of potential and a blank canvas ahead. YES! When I'm feeling upbeat lately, I look back with fondness and amazement at the low points after this breakup. What an amazing complex of feelings. Luckliy I usually only have to wait a few hours for the sadness to come back, but never anywhere near as intense as the beginning.
Rose T Posted January 15, 2011 Posted January 15, 2011 YES! When I'm feeling upbeat lately, I look back with fondness and amazement at the low points after this breakup. What an amazing complex of feelings. Luckliy I usually only have to wait a few hours for the sadness to come back, but never anywhere near as intense as the beginning. I know how you feel - today I was out on my bike and thinking about previous breakups, and I realised that I never look back at the Rose T of those moments with pity, but with a kind of fondness, as you say. Breakups are also times when you tend to get your **** together, partly because you're forced to - but also because you are suddenly free to mould your future. There's also the hope that after a breakup, when you're stronger, you can look forward to falling in love again. What's not to like?!
stopthemadness Posted January 16, 2011 Posted January 16, 2011 I have already become a better person with the help of LS, YOUR HELP, and it's growing up everyday as I all read your stories, good or bad. Everything must be falling into place I guess, I met a wonderful girl last night, we had so much fun chating.I was surprised to be interested by her because I was still thinking a lot about M, my previous FWB. I was even planning to break NC when I felt ok about myself to ask her if she would like to date and see where it could go, but I was still unsure... Anyways the new girl J and I really had a sweet night with common friends, after we went out I drove her home, asked if she wanted someone just to sleep near her tonight because we both felt really alone living by ourselves, she said YEAH, BUT JUST TO SLEEP, lol. We talked a little again inside and went to bed, she jumped on me and start kissing as soon we were lying, I was trying to stop her (not very convincing, ok) and so we didn't really just sleep...amazing night and crazy morning! I really like that person and who know where it will go, but anyways the point is that I started healing, succeed in keeping NC, started to work on myself (even if I was feeling like **** most of the time I was awake I was still learning a lot everyday) and I met a girl who made my coping so much easier today that I don't plan to break NC now. And all this without having to drink once since the 15 december 2009! Wow Good for you.. i cant wait tell I feel like I can fall in love again But it aint 2day. My heart still has alot of healing to do.And smtimes I wish for bad things to happen to him. But just as fast I stop myself. I just cant wait for indifference, hurry up and get here (smile)
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