Author itteloc Posted January 14, 2011 Author Posted January 14, 2011 Good question. OP, has your GF ever made mention of her boss contacting her via FB, even if you never saw the actual message? They've been working together for some time, yes? More information. Remember, focus on the team (you and her). OP, how old are you and your GF? Also, so I'm clear, are the two ex'es in your immediate past out of your life now? I read that you had some issues with them prior to meeting this new gal. I'm 27 and she's 30....yes my other ex's are out of my life....he has contacted her via fb but only on her page once so every1 can view it and that was to wish her merry xmas
ConflictedGuy27 Posted January 14, 2011 Posted January 14, 2011 That is pretty much what I was saying. Start doing some detective work... don't do anything huge. My suggestion was for a keylogger on the primary computer to gather passwords, and to gain access to her cellphone records if possible. Also that her actions don't entirely fit the situation. That may alter depending on her personality type... but she sounds like someone who should be more upset than confused. your reccomendation that OP turn his apartment into the pentagon is what I was disagreeing with. spying is a very slippery slope and implies a serious lack of trust. OP, at this point, has no reason to distrust his gf, based on what he's shared. if it gets to a point where things really aren't adding up, in a BIG way, I still say no spying (on a girlfriend), at that point you simply show her the door. do not spy. you'll regret it.
Titania22 Posted January 15, 2011 Posted January 15, 2011 So she opens it in front of me and we read it and its pretty basic and in it he goes "I've watch you grow into a beautiful young lady." The red flag to me was he closed off the message with "143" which as we all know means I love u. And people wonder why some women have trouble progressing in careers and even sometimes holding down jobs. Face it, if she leaves that job, chances are there will be another boss like that at her next, and next. And if she doesn't keep the jobs for long, eventually she will appear unemployable. There has to be some way you can support her keeping her job. I was in the best job of my life, and my boss wasn't coming on to me, but he was always trying to provoke me (dealing with his sexual tension i imagine). My boyfriend got all uncomfortable about some of the inappropriate things my boss said. And I left my job to keep the peace. Never had a job like that, that i enjoyed and paid so well ever again.
ecm Posted January 15, 2011 Posted January 15, 2011 I tried to read all of the replies, but I am on my way out the door. #1) If there were anything going on- she wouldn't have opened it in front of you. #2) I've worked for my bosses for 7 years and they BOTH write I love you in my Christmas cards, etc. So do I. Nothing "sexual" about it. (though they are both very good looking, but that's for another time- hahaha) I USUALLY think the worst. I see nothing shady or creepy about it, unless she's not like that with her boss. Maybe it was his wife trying to see what your gf would say- haha. I STILL don't think anything is going on, but maybe his wife is crazy and/or jealous???? Honestly, it sounds like nothing to worry about.
Author itteloc Posted January 15, 2011 Author Posted January 15, 2011 I tried to read all of the replies, but I am on my way out the door. #1) If there were anything going on- she wouldn't have opened it in front of you. #2) I've worked for my bosses for 7 years and they BOTH write I love you in my Christmas cards, etc. So do I. Nothing "sexual" about it. (though they are both very good looking, but that's for another time- hahaha) I USUALLY think the worst. I see nothing shady or creepy about it, unless she's not like that with her boss. Maybe it was his wife trying to see what your gf would say- haha. I STILL don't think anything is going on, but maybe his wife is crazy and/or jealous???? Honestly, it sounds like nothing to worry about. Thanks for the advice and support...I hope you're right.
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