tiewebb Posted January 14, 2011 Posted January 14, 2011 So decided to jump back into the online dating world after a bit of a break. Initiated contact with this girl who appears to have her act together, is my age (30) and, to be honest, is really pretty. I sent the initial email and kept it pretty brief but friendly and asked her a few questions. All good. She responded within a day and at the end of her note, left her phone number and said she was looking forward to hearing back from me. Nothing in her email came across as if she was a bunny boiler or anything. I interpreted it is as a nice gesture and suspect I made a good impression! In my previous experience with this online caper, normally I'd wait for a few emails to be traded before asking whether the girl would like to catch up for a coffee or drink (obviously bearing in mind how things were looking) and wait for them to offer their number. But this has caught me offguard a bit! In the real world, girl gives you their number, you give them a call. Simple enough. In the online dating world, girl gives you their number straight off the bat. What do you do?
oaks Posted January 14, 2011 Posted January 14, 2011 In the real world, girl gives you their number, you give them a call. Simple enough. In the online dating world, girl gives you their number straight off the bat. What do you do? You still call her! If you have any doubts (is she too good to be true etc) but still want to meet then just follow the usual advice when meeting a stranger for the first time - tell someone where you're going and meet in a public place etc. It could just be that her experience with online dating is that you can't tell much about the potential for a relationship from just emailing so she likes to hurry up and get on with talking and perhaps meeting.
OceanGirl Posted January 14, 2011 Posted January 14, 2011 Yeah, just call her or text her (but preferably call her). I am also too impatient to e-mail for ages. If I like someone's profile and pics I want to meet ASAP. I have had situations where I have wasted a lot of time chatting and e-mailing only for the meet up in person to be a miserable fail.
refurb Posted January 14, 2011 Posted January 14, 2011 I've done the online thing and had women send the initial email and say "Looks like we've got enough in common, let's meet." Some move faster than others, it doesn't necessarily mean anything. It all depends on her. You could email her back, call her or just ask her out. Just ask what she's comfortable with, that's what I did. RF
GivenUp0083 Posted January 14, 2011 Posted January 14, 2011 So decided to jump back into the online dating world after a bit of a break. Initiated contact with this girl who appears to have her act together, is my age (30) and, to be honest, is really pretty. I sent the initial email and kept it pretty brief but friendly and asked her a few questions. All good. She responded within a day and at the end of her note, left her phone number and said she was looking forward to hearing back from me. Nothing in her email came across as if she was a bunny boiler or anything. I interpreted it is as a nice gesture and suspect I made a good impression! In my previous experience with this online caper, normally I'd wait for a few emails to be traded before asking whether the girl would like to catch up for a coffee or drink (obviously bearing in mind how things were looking) and wait for them to offer their number. But this has caught me offguard a bit! In the real world, girl gives you their number, you give them a call. Simple enough. In the online dating world, girl gives you their number straight off the bat. What do you do? Personally, from all my experiences with this....I take it as a bad sign, but I'd just roll with it and not get my expectations too high. I found some women who move really quick like this one and throw out her number is either a professional dater (a woman who goes on A LOT of first dates) or she's a quick flame (she likes a guy a lot really fast then gets sick of him and moves on). She very well could be really cool and your dream woman, but I'd take it as half a red flag and just go with it. Call her if you feel like talking. If it were me I'd try throwing some texts out there to slow it down a little bit. Then call and talk on the phone a few times before setting up a date.
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