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How am I supposed to act around her now?


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I posted a little earlier about this girl I was interested. That didn't work out (typical!), but she said she hoped that things wouldn't be awkward between us, and that she wanted to stay friends. We have a lot of mutual friends and usually meet up at least once a week with the group.

 

How am I supposed to act with her now? I don't want to fall off the face of the planet, but I don't want to overbearing either. Before I expressed my feelings, we would talk fairly often. I don't know how much I should contact her anymore.

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I had a similar situation happen to me over the summer. For me what worked was going complete NC for a couple of months until I met and started dating someone else. I now see this person somewhat regularly (we work at the same company) and I actually feel like I can talk to her without that awkwardness. Still she's not someone I seek out to talk to like I used to and we talked a lot, but at least I don't have to avoid her.

 

Not sure how that will work if you have mutual friends that you meet with, might have to take a break for awhile.

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Sorry it didn't work out.

 

I think it would be best if you didn't contact her much at this point. You mentioned mutual friends, so that makes things kinda difficult. I would say treat her the same way you did (like talking to her in general while ignoring your feelings) before telling her how you felt, but stuff like that is much easier said than done.

 

Wish I had a better answer for you.

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