diablodude64 Posted January 13, 2011 Posted January 13, 2011 I have been dating a girl for a little over a year and 5 months now and we have a great relationship, but it seems to me that in the past 3 months there are a few things that have changed. The biggest thing is that topics we could once talke about such as sexual fun topics, are now avoided by her. For example if I send a text with a question that's sexual, almost everytime it seems like she will wait a while, then she will respond with something that has nothing to do with what I asked. Now maybe a lot of people write and forget... I ask a question because I am curious not because I like being over looked. Another thing is that when she wants to she will initiate intimacy such as touching me and it's all fine if she does it, but if I do it, she say no. This would be fine, if not for the past year that we were amazing together and loved having doing things together. Anyways what could this be about?
FreeheartLover Posted January 16, 2011 Posted January 16, 2011 I have been dating a girl for a little over a year and 5 months now and we have a great relationship, but it seems to me that in the past 3 months there are a few things that have changed. The biggest thing is that topics we could once talke about such as sexual fun topics, are now avoided by her. For example if I send a text with a question that's sexual, almost everytime it seems like she will wait a while, then she will respond with something that has nothing to do with what I asked. Now maybe a lot of people write and forget... I ask a question because I am curious not because I like being over looked. Another thing is that when she wants to she will initiate intimacy such as touching me and it's all fine if she does it, but if I do it, she say no. This would be fine, if not for the past year that we were amazing together and loved having doing things together. Anyways what could this be about? Pay better attention to her moods and body language. Sounds like she's just not in the mood when you are. Maybe your sex life has become predictable and routine. Tie her up and suck her toes or something
East7 Posted January 16, 2011 Posted January 16, 2011 IMO You have got some red flags here. If she is not that comfortable than before, she is loosing interest. Maybe you are behaving needy. Talking about sex with your GF is always a bad idea, she is not your buddy. (unless she initiates it or it is done in a funny way)
LeaningIntoTheMuse Posted January 16, 2011 Posted January 16, 2011 I agree, she is losing interest. Maybe she feels pressured over something? Is there anything that happened recently that could be bothering her?
Author diablodude64 Posted January 20, 2011 Author Posted January 20, 2011 It's hard to say whether she is losing interest or not. I don't think she is, but sometimes she does act like it. Because of this off and on kind of thing, I have started to lose patience... This girl has meant the world to me since the day I met her, but if 'us' becomes a job I don't think I want to waste my time or hers.... I don't pressure her to my knowledge, most of the time when I say something, it's after she asked something in the same category. For the record we used to have these conversations all the time and they were awesome! We both started college in september and that is when I felt like things were changing with us. We got to the point where we would argue about anything, and I stopped to think about it for a while and it was because she kept changing from one thing to another. I didn't get that, so I asked her why she wanted to change. She said it was because change is good and if your not changing your staying in one place or something to that effect. I don't get that. I asked her why she would change a good thing and basically got the same thing. Ever since this point I feel kind of like I am the one holding us together because I feel like she has this princess mindset where everything needs to go her way now. Whether shes wants to think that or not, that's how shes been. This behavior has died down quite a bit as I thought it would... but I am to the point that next time we get in one of these 4 hour arguments, I think I am going to go on a break with her.
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