ccnaboy2000 Posted January 13, 2011 Posted January 13, 2011 (edited) So my gf of 7 mos split up with me back on Nov 27th. We lived together for about 3 months for the most part. Said she wanted to be single and we both needed to get stuff done in our lives and after we figure it out we could get back together. Said she doesn't want to see other people either. (Stuff done like me finding a new job since I lost mine, get a new apartment since I could no longer afford it). I went NC immediately. For 2 weeks she was texting telling me she missed me, loves me, prays for me every night yadda yadda. We ended up getting back together. Everything was great, everyday telling me she loves me, wants to come over n cuddle, telling me she misses me when she's not around. 3 weeks later same thing happened, saying she still wants to be single and we can be together when we get our stuff fixed in life, after spending an awesome day hiking the day before laughing and joking and taking pictures together. I went NC again, she texted a couple times the first day. Saying how she doesnt understand why I ignore her and that it's not permanent and how its really annoying. Asked if I was ignoring her because I found a new girl. And that was the end.... I never responded. Here I am 2 weeks down the road and haven't heard a peep from her. The first time around I guess it gave me hope of reconciliation she was calling me and texting all the time telling me how much she missed and loved me. But this time I'm feeling lost because I haven't heard any of it. I don't understand whats going on at all. Maybe it was all a lie. Edited January 13, 2011 by ccnaboy2000
Author ccnaboy2000 Posted January 13, 2011 Author Posted January 13, 2011 Funny just after posting this "Stop ignoring me and go have lunch with me" Lol. Wow speak of the devil.
Author ccnaboy2000 Posted January 14, 2011 Author Posted January 14, 2011 Welp it's another new day, I resisted the urge to respond to the text and agree to lunch. Though today I'm feeling a little down in the dumps
fiat500 Posted January 14, 2011 Posted January 14, 2011 sounds like she only values you once you're not there for her. But once you show her you care, she pushes you away. she wants a doormat. the fate of the relationship shouldn't be on HER terms only. she sounds really selfish.
FreeToBe Posted January 15, 2011 Posted January 15, 2011 Good job on the nc. You are doing the right thing there. There may be some info that may help you... see my signature link. Are you familiar with bpd?
Author ccnaboy2000 Posted January 16, 2011 Author Posted January 16, 2011 You know it's funny I was thinking about when we were together during those 7 months, she would pretty regularly surf okcupid, an online dating site. I talked to her about it, she just said she just reads the messages people send her all the time, and doesnt respond. Heh well I dont know if I buy all that anymore. Heck she left me saying she wanted to be single, doesnt want to date anyone, and that wants to be with me in the future when we get our lives in order. But damn, she flirts with guys on facebook leaving comments telling guys they are sexy, and now loggin onto okcupid everyday, sometimes multiple times a day. (I dont check anymore, deleted my facebook all together, and deleted my dating profile, which she would check out like once a week) So I think it's a bunch of crap. First time I went NC she was calling me everyday and texting trying to win me back, 3 weeks later here I am single again, and she probably doesn't give a damn about me since I havent heard anything. All I can think is.. everything was a lie. From the beginning of the relationship to the end.
new0726 Posted January 16, 2011 Posted January 16, 2011 I think just staying NC for a while is your best bet. It really sucks and you have a lot of up's and down's. But in the long run, it really helps for getting over that person. So, the next time they contact you, you are cool, confident, and won't be upset if things don't work out to your expectations. Best of luck.
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