brneyedgrl Posted January 13, 2011 Posted January 13, 2011 From him, "Looking at rings put everything in perspective and I paniced, in the long run this will be best for both of us" Ugh... how do I keep from making a fool of myself and crying and calling and begging and being a complete psycho g/f (which is completely not the real me) which is all I seem to want to do at this point... still living together for three weeks and this hurts so bad... some days are worse than others but I fear the worse days are yet to come, help!!!
cerridwen Posted January 13, 2011 Posted January 13, 2011 From him, how do I keep from making a fool of myself and crying and calling and begging and being a complete psycho g/f By realizing that calling and begging will make him run (and lose respect for you) further and faster than anything else you can do. And, on top of all this pain, feeling stupid certainly won't help. Please tell me he didn't text that to you. Please.
LifeIsGreat Posted January 13, 2011 Posted January 13, 2011 From him, "Looking at rings put everything in perspective and I paniced, in the long run this will be best for both of us" Ugh... how do I keep from making a fool of myself and crying and calling and begging and being a complete psycho g/f (which is completely not the real me) which is all I seem to want to do at this point... still living together for three weeks and this hurts so bad... some days are worse than others but I fear the worse days are yet to come, help!!! I read your prior post where you went into detail about your r/l. Geez, I really feel for you. I was married to someone who was diagnosed with depression. It REALLY sucks. You should look for some depression forums. I think you will find it very interesting. Bottom line (and you aren't going to believe this right now)..... your life will be better not being with him. Depressed people are extremely hard to live with. When they are down, they will blame YOU. This is typical. Depressed people look at their closest relation to 'pin' their unhappiness on. Trust me...... when someone says you are better off without them, they are 100% right. It's been 5 years, but I remember it like it was yesterday..... my ex wife was packing her stuff to leave and said to me 'you can do better than me'. I'm not going to lie, this is going to be very tough for you. But you need to move on. Get your business done with him, and then go NC.
Author brneyedgrl Posted January 13, 2011 Author Posted January 13, 2011 @cerridwen: That was his text to me today after some probing from me, I asked him how he goes from looking at rings to not wanting a relationship of any kind, guess I got my reply! @LifeIsGreat: Thank you so much, it's different dealing with someone with depression and it's even tougher when there's a b/u involved. Friends and family don't understand his reasoning and simply brush it off as him being an a**hole so it's nice to hear someone who's gone through it. I guess I should count my blessings it didn't go any farther and he's strong enough to know he's not good for me...because god knows I'm nowhere near strong enough to let him go right now even though I know I have to.
cerridwen Posted January 13, 2011 Posted January 13, 2011 Oh man. I'm sorry. Try to spend as much time as you can out of the house for the next 3 weeks. Post here often for support. Journal, journal, journal so you're not keeping all your emotions inside! You're more likely to explode if you do. LifeIsGreat's suggestion about depression forums is a good one. You can read tortured stories there about what happens when people DO commit.
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